If you are a female and have short hair and dress like a tomboy, there is a pretty good chance that you will have been asked if you are a lesbian.
Not every girl likes traditional social norms of dressing or buys into what society thinks a girl should look and act like.
There is nothing wrong with being gay, if you are you should be loud and proud. The thing is you may not be ready to come out yet, and don’t know what to say when people ask if you are lesbian?
If people keep asking if you are a lesbian, use one of our clever comebacks if you don’t want to give a direct answer.
9 Best comebacks when someone calls you a lesbian
1. Is that your way of asking if I’m single? Sorry, but you’re not my type.
2. Sorry, I am straight, so would you please stop trying to flirt with me.
3. I am not a lesbian, but hey but you don’t need to take my word for it just ask your Dad.
4. Only on Wednesdays.
5. I thought we were going to keep this quiet until we are both ready to come out.
6) Is there a reason you need to know?
7. And it matters because…
8. I don’t label or discuss my sexuality with people I just met.
9. If you’re trying to hook up with me I’m flattered but you’re not my type.
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Why do people ask if you are a lesbian?
People may be curious for many different reasons. Some folks like to label others, and put them in a box so they can classify them. Other people may not have been exposed to many gay people before and are curious.
When people see a woman with a more masculine appearance, they may assume that you are lesbian by the way you dress or present yourself.
Other woman may ask because they find you attractive, and they view you as a potential romantic partner.
Never feel an obligation to answer questions about your sexual orientation. It is your private information that you can reveal if you chose to. If you feel uncomfortable answering, try to redirect the topic of conversation in another direction.
How to handle being called a lesbian
Don’t let being called a lesbian stress you out. Your sexual orientation is a private matter that needs to be respected. If you are called a lesbian in a derogatory manner, you have the right to let someone know that their negative comments are not OK, and are hurtful.
Always make sure that you are a in a safe situation when you speak up, and respond assertively with a calm tone. Use one of our clever replies to defuse the situation.
Surround yourself with supportive friends who respect people from all walks of life, who accept you for who you really are. Don’t define yourself by small minded people’s opinions.
More clever comebacks you might like
- Great comebacks if people ask if you’re gay?
- Top ten comebacks for nosey people
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10 Famous Lesbians
There are many famous lesbians throughout history and in contemporary society. Here are a few examples:
1. Martina Navratilova – Czech-American former professional tennis player
2. Jane Lynch – American actress and comedian
3. Ellen DeGeneres – American comedian, actress, and talk show host
4. Portia de Rossi – Australian-American actress and model
5. Jodie Foster – American actress and director
6. Melissa Etheridge – American singer-songwriter
7. K.D. Lang – Canadian singer-songwriter
8. Rachel Maddow – American television host and political commentator
9. Wanda Sykes – American comedian and actress
10. Lily Tomlin – American actress and comedian
The Role of counselling and self care
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When you are dealing with a person who asks if if you are a lesbian and you find it stressful, consider getting support from a professional. Talking to a counselor is a great way to work through a challenging situation, and help you find some strategies to work through the person’s behaviour.
Better Help is a great resource where you can talk to a counselor from the comfort of your own home.
Taking care of your own needs isn’t selfish, and you will feel better in the long run.