It can be awkward when someone goes on about being a virgin and wants to why you still haven’t had sex yet. We get that nobody wants to be notorious for being a 30-year-old virgin but it is probably better to wait until you find the right person instead of rushing and doing something you’ll regret.
You might feel awkward being the only virgin in your group of friends but it can be even more awkward if you sleep with someone and things go sideways. I used to work as a flight attendant for an international airline and you could always tell if crew members had hooked up the night before. There would be an awkward silence between the people who had a fling and they would usually ignore each other during the rest of the trip. It was always kind of interesting to see how things played out.
There is nothing wrong with being a virgin, wait until you’re ready. In the meantime, use one of our snappy comebacks below the next time someone asks you a nosy question.
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I'm not ready yet, I'm not gonna do something I'll regret.
No means no, I'm not a hoe, now let it go.
There’s no use trying to rush fate, because the best things in life are worth the wait.
Quit being a pest, it's not gonna make me say yes.
When the person you are seeing says that they will die if you don’t have sex with them, it may leave your head spinning. Relationships are complicated, and things can move fast within the blink of an eye. Soon, you’ve gone from long walks in the park to him/her wanting to take things to the next level. If you find yourself in the situation where your partner is pestering you for sex, you should know that you aren’t obligated to do anything you aren’t comfortable with.
You may feel like you have to do what they want just because you’re in a relationship with them, but that’s not the case. The pressure in a relationship to please the other individual can feel very real, but if you feel like you are just not ready or any other circumstance that is giving you doubts, you are always welcome to say no.
As well, you shouldn’t feel bad or guilty for wanting to decline. If you’re afraid to see how your partner reacts, then you should know that you aren’t responsible for how someone else is feeling. It’s not your job to make someone else happy, and however, they choose to respond.
To add on, it’s not a bad thing to be scared of having sex. It does come with serious responsibility and can have serious repercussions. Take Jamie Lyn Spears for example. At the age of 16, she learned she was pregnant, and her world was thrown out of proportion. Even at such a young age, she was forced to grow up so fast, and while her life now is back on track, we can’t imagine how hard it must of been for her to deal with the news.
Sex isn’t always bad, but if you feel like you aren’t ready or are feeling pressured to do so, don’t. If you ever find yourself in a situation where someone is asking you to have sex with them, try using one of our comebacks below
Vote for the best comeback when someone says that they will die if you won’t have sex
If you are still a virgin and someone is pressuring you to have sex it can be really stressful.
You can be at a loss for words when they say things like, “Everyone is having sex or if you loved me you would do it”. If someone really loves you they are not going to pressure you to do something that you don’t feel ready to do.
If you are feeling uncomfortable, this may not be the right person for. Your Mr. Right could be just around the corner.
Here are a few things you can say to let them know you’re not ready in a funny way.
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I never have sex on on days that end in "Y." .
Today is not your day, tomorrow doesn't look good either.
The voices inside my head are telling me to say no.
I’m saving myself for Cole Sprouse.
Khloé Kardashian felt pressured to lose her virginity
Khloé Kardashian regrets being pressured into having sex at a young age. Here is what she has to say about being pressured to make a decision she regrets:
“My situation was not a good situation. I was 14 years old and dating an 18-year-old boy, which now I look back and think it’s disgusting, but then I thought I was really cool … Basically, I got pressured into having sex. I wasn’t ready. I barely knew my own body…
“I felt like if I didn’t, I wouldn’t be cool or this guy wouldn’t want to talk to me anymore … I didn’t have sex for the next three years, just because I didn’t feel comfortable with my body and I didn’t feel like I knew myself. And then being out of that environment, I knew I did the wrong thing and I was kind of forced to have sex.” —HLN, December 2012
When someone says, “Have sex with me, ” it is all about their needs instead of yours. They are only thinking about what’s in it for them and their agenda.
Just because someone wants something, you have no obligation to whip off your knickers and succumb to their urges. They are not thinking of the long term consequences of their decisions only the right now.
Sex is great when you’re ready to have it! Sex isn’t so amazing when you are pressured into doing something that you don’t want to do, especially when you are not in a committed relationship.
When I used to work for the airlines you would see airline crew all flirt with each other. A couple of days into a ten-day trip, you would see an icy awkward silence between the two people who were once so flirty. What happened? They hooked up and then things went sideways, and they were stuck flying the roster together for another month.
When someone is pressuring you to do something you don’t feel comfortable doing, put your needs first. Here are a few things you can say to let the person know that you are not going to have sex with them in a jokey way,
Vote for the best comeback when someone asks you to have sex
The amount of alcohol I would need to sleep with you would actually kill me.
I think we should just be friends with sexual tension.
Flirting is a promise of sexual intercourse without a guarantee.
It can be awkward when someone goes on about being a virgin and wants to why you still haven’t had sex yet. There is nothing wrong with being a virgin, wait until you’re ready, in the meantime use one of our snappy comebacks below the next time someone asks you a nosy question. Go ahead, tell us what you think is the best comeback.
Vote for the best comeback when someone asks why you haven’t had sex yet
Sex is like math: you add the bed, subtract the clothes, divide the legs and pray you don’t multiply. I don't want to multiply!
Sex is like high school...you miss a period and you're in trouble.
Sex takes up the least amount of time and causes the most amount of trouble.
I almost had a threesome last night, all I needed was two more people.
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