When your child asks why you don’t like their friend you want to find the right response. It can be tricky territory to navigate because if you insult your child’s friend, it may get their back up and backfire on you.
It can be challenging to like all of your kid’s friends, usually, there is a good reason for your feelings. The thing is that we all become like the five people that we spend the most time with. With have to be very careful who we associate with, especially in the younger years. Some children or teens can be rude, unkind or a very bad influence on your kid.
Anja went to an elementary school with a lot of nice kids from good families. In grade 7, the kid’s hormones were raging and there was a lot of drama going on. Anja’s mom, Sasha, had a bad feeling about the direction of a few of Anja’s friends were heading in. She decided that it would be better for her daughter to attend a different high school.
Anja could see that it was true, but she still felt sad about the situation. By grade 8 a lot of the nice kids had started smoking and vaping, which only leads to other things. Anja ended up at a private high school, where she eventually started making new friends who were on a different life path. Even though she could see still liked her old friends, she knew that her mom was right, even if it took a few years to admit it.
When your child wants to know if you like their friend, use one of the clever responses below.