I have been crying for three or four days. I have to say that I am probably the saddest that I have ever been in my entire life. Three days ago I found out that my son’s best friend in grade three and four committed suicide.
He was 15 and a great kid, he had a solid group of friends, he was good looking and a talented young person who had the most loving amazing parents. They are successful middle class people, everything in his life looked great from the outside.
I would never have thought that in a million years that he would have been at risk to commit suicide. He was quiet but he just seemed to have it all together. He was kind and funny, he had a big personality and he had the brightest future ahead of him. He was such a talented kid.
When another kid was bullying my son, C. told him to stop and kicked him in the shins. I am forever grateful that he stood up for my son. It showed such bravery and kindness, especially for a kid in grade five.
At elementary school he was at all the birthday parties. He was on the playground everyday, and he was always there. I just can’t believe he is gone. I keep waking up in the middle of the night and I think it just can’t be true, he just can’t be gone.
Even though my son didn’t hang out with him anymore, they went to different schools, the relationship was good. We all thought that C. was a great kid.
The entire community is just gutted that he is no longer here, people have been crying for days. People are crying because
- He is gone forever
- That he ended his life
- For his beautiful family who are left behind
- That he felt sad enough that he felt he needed to end is life
People can’t believe that this amazing wonderful human being is gone. This amazing kid who was full of potential is gone.
If you are having feelings of sadness, or you are being bullied please talk to somebody. You are important and you matter. You matter to so many people, you may not be able to see it but it’s true.
You are important and you matter, I just can’t say it enough.
If you are having a tough time please tell your best friend. Please tell somebody so you can get the help you need.
C, we will never forget you. Fly high!
You have the right to verbally defend yourself. If you have a friend or relative who makes snide comments towards you and puts you down, it’s not OK. You have the right to say something and to tell them to stop.
We’ve all had those relationships and friendships with people who don’t treat us the way we deserve to be treated, and they don’t seem to care or respect our feelings. Even when we let them know that it’s not OK they trample all over our personal boundaries time and time again.
A friend of mine found out her husband was calling her Bagheimer, a name he made up for her, behind her back in front of her children. He was calling her that name when she would ask him to do stuff around the house that a responsible adult would just normally do.
One of their kids starting calling his mom Bagheimer because he saw his dad do it he thought it was OK. When she found out about the derogatory name-calling she was so mad, she said to her husband you better stop now or pack your bags and move out. He never called her that name again. Shockingly, he would have the audacity to think that was OK to say to his wife and mother of his children.
Some of these people who treat others poorly probably are not worthy of being your friend or in your life. When you think of all the good people that you have in your life, yet somehow you end up spending hours of your energy focused on these negative Nellies, the negative 20 perfect of the people in your life. It is the 20 percent who cause most of the problems, stress, and anxiety.
Finding the right words to stand up for yourself
It can be hard to find the words to tell them to stop, we get that. You don’t know what to say and your mind goes blank, and it is emotional because someone is being unkind to you. Even worse, someone who is in your close inner circle is being unkind to you.
When you tell them to stop you always want to make sure that you are in a safe situation. The good thing about comebacks is you are not calling someone fully out on their bad behaviour but you are letting them know that your behaviour stinks. It is kind of an easier way to let them know you are on to the negative way they are behaving, without spelling it out fully.
If you grew up without a voice, in a household where your feelings were negated and people walked all over you and didn’t respect your point of view or your feeling it is challenging. It is going to be harder for you to stand up for yourself than someone who learned these skills growing up.
You can learn what to say. Standing up to someone is like a muscle you can develop, think of it like doing reps at the gym. You can get there, it is a question of knowing what to say and how to say it.
A couple of months ago I emailed all of you on my list and asked what you really wanted to see, what kind of content I could create that would help you in your day in your day to day life. What you told me is that you wanted verbal self-defense made easy, especially with your relatives and family who sometimes say the most horrible things.
Yep, we all have that one relative or friend who blurts out some real zingers. It’s tricky because you want to say something to verbally defend yourself but you want to keep your relationship with your friends and family.
So how do you get them to stop? Well, it’s coming soon…
For the last three or four months, I have been working my buns off creating an amazing product for you guys that will take you through the process of what to say and how to say it, and how to verbally defend yourself without blowing up your relationships.
Verbal Self Defense Made Easy will also, helping you figure out why certain people pick on you. Right now, I am three quarters through creating the product. I am almost there.
I can’t wait to let you guys get your hands on a copy of Verbal Self Defense made easy, it is going to be a great product and the best thing that I have ever created.
I am so excited to show it to you all!
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Urban Dictionary’s definition of an Emo person is “a depressed person who has dark hair that covers 3/5 of their face, they wear converse, skinny jeans, and tight shirts.” Emo is associated with a music subculture which was popular from 2000 on, with white suburban youth.
We all know that you if you are a non-conformist in any way, people will call you weird or a freak. Conservative people like to slam those who stand out, who aren’t afraid to be different and take a stand against things.
Emos are known to be melodramatic and overly sensitive about their problems. Being dramatic about issues probably describes 90 percent of the teenage population on the planet.
Emo people are known to stand up for oppressed causes, stating their political views and share how they feel about things.
Next time someone calls you Emo, use one our great comebacks to shut them up.
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