What should I say when I don’t want to be friends with someone anymore

What to say when someone asks why you don't want to be their friend

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Hey so, I had this friend who I was close to for a while, but as I got to know them better, they proved to be a real jerk. I don’t talk to them anymore, but if they try to ask me what happened, what should I say?

Louisa, Brazil

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If someone asks you directly why you are no longer friends you might not want to go into the details of what you don’t like about them. Explaining to the person what went wrong may take a tremendous amount of your energy. If they are not a close friend, save your energy for the more important things you have going on in your life. You could tell them that you have been busy with work or school.

When I was younger, I used to think that I had a responsibility to explain myself and be honest if I was ending a bad relationship or distancing myself from someone.

A lot of people’s problems come from their backward thinking and their belief system, explaining how they offended you isn’t really going to solve the problem or change their life in any way.

If the person isn’t a good fit for you as a friend they may be perfect for someone else. If you have mutual friends, they may ask why you ended the friendship, don’t badmouth the person.

Sometimes you have to let the bad friendships go to make room for the good ones.

Wishing you all good things

Bryn

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What to say when people tell you that someone has a crush on you

Funny replies when you are told SOMEONE HAS A CRUSH ON YOU

When someone has a crush on you it is funny how everyone can’t wait to tell you. If you are into the person who likes you, then it is truly great and celebratory moment.

If you are not into the person who is crushing on you, and you share mutual friends or hang out in a group it can be really awkward. You don’t want to offend the person or turn them into an enemy but it is embarrassing when everyone starts making a really big deal about the situation.

Next someone runs up and tells you that someone wants to hook up with you, use one of our comebacks below.

How to respond when people tell you that someone has a crush on you

  1. Yeah, so everyone keeps telling me.
  2. Well, she has good  good taste.
  3. I’m sure she’ll make some guy that isn’t me really, really happy someday.
  4. Yeah, well that’s not going to happen.
  5. I would rather stick needles in my eyes. Or your eyes.
  6. I’d rather remove my own gallbladder with an oyster fork than be with her.
  7. If only I hadn’t just enrolled in a  monastery…
  8. She’s really nice, considerate and not my type.

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