One of our readers reached out and shared a story of what they are going through.
Lola is going through a difficult divorce. and she was finding it very hard because everybody had an opinion about her marriage and people in her family were making comments that they liked her Ex. They kept telling her that he was such a great guy, and they were having no regard for her feelings. After all, she was divorcing him for a reason!
People think they know everything about your situation, but they only know part of the story or a sliver of what really went on. Yet they feel free to voice their opinion or attack you over something which they know nothing about.
In a relationship, there are always two sides to a story. And these people thought they could comment on her marriage and Lola should listen.
Lola’s cousins, who she saw a couple of times a year, didn’t know that her husband had another side, they didn’t know that he had been having an affair for two years. Lola was the one who had to live through it and suffered, and yet her family was telling her how she should live her life.
Even though Lola had been suffering for a long time, people in her family thought their opinion on her marriage mattered. They weren’t the person in the marriage living the day to day life, yet they have an opinion.
People think they have a right to tell everybody how to live their life. But luckily, Lola had gotten our bundle because she went and she gave the most awesome comeback and her relatives just stood there and stopped talking. She responded politely so they couldn’t call her out for being rude.
The comeback she used was from one of our cheat sheets in the Verbal Self Defense bundle. And it just shut her cousin up. She said it was priceless seeing the look on her face at being told to back off in a polite but diplomatic way.
You can stand up to people and you can do it in a nice way that lets people know that certain topics are not open for discussion.
A lot of times when it comes to family you can let stuff go, it isn’t worth arguing about but when you feel someone has crossed the line you should say something, even if it is family.
if you have a difficult friend or family member, the Verbal Self Defense Made Easy Bundle will help you find something to say. You can find it in our store.