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Kind words when someone has lost a loved one

What to say to someone who lost a loved one

When someone has passed away, it can be really challenging to find the right words to say. You want to say uplifting, kind things and you certainly don’t want to talk about anything too raw that will tear their emotions to shreds and make the person start crying right in front of you.

When dealing with a death, emotions come in waves, people can be OK one minute and then overwhelmed with grief and sadness the next. People are just trying to hold it together, some folks might feel like that can’t even go on, so the last thing that they want to do is burst out crying in a public space.

A friend of mine, Pippa, lost a dear pet, a dog that she had for seven years who helped her through some really tough times. She was on the bus going to work and listened to a song that reminded her of her dog made her start sobbing. Pippa felt so embarrassed shedding tears in public on the way to work, and not being able to hold it together.

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Losing a pet can be so painful because you often spend more time with your pet than you do with most people in your life. She shared that she appreciated hearing positive memories of her dog.

Sharing happy positive memories of a loved is always a great thing to do. Saying how much someone will be missed and sharing a happy memory won’t send someone over the edge.

Ten things you can say to someone who has lost a loved one

  1. We sure are going to miss Jason and all the joy and laughter he brought to all of us. If there is anything we can do to lighten your load please let us know. We will be dropping off dinner for you one night next week.
  2. I am sad to hear about Sally’s passing. If you ever feel like talking I am here to listen.
  3. Dazza touched so many lives. His legacy will live on and we all cherish the time that we got to spend with him. I am grateful to have been one of his good friends for 20 years.
  4. If you ever want to talk about your Dad please don’t hesitate to call. Your father was one of my favourite people and I am always happy to reminisce about all the fun times that we shared together.
  5. Ginger was such a truly remarkable giving person. I admire how she always lived her life with such grace and dignity. She is an example of a life well-lived.
  6. Your mom always brought joy to everyone around her. I will always remember the time she X.
  7. You must have so many wonderful memories of your time together. I am sure that will help comfort you through these difficult days.
  8. The loss of such an amazing person is really challenging. Sadie was a truly lovely, kind and wonderful person.
  9. Kelly will be missed by so many people. He always brought the fun to whoever he was with and a smile to everyone’s face. Words cannot express how sorry I am for your loss.
  10. John brought so much joy to everyone around him. He will be missed by many.

What to say in difficult situations

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Comebacks when people call you salty

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When someone calls you salty they’re basically saying that you’re angry and upset because someone roasted and you’re pissed off about it.

Who knew that the term “salty” originates from the US Navy and it’s used to describe older members of the navy who are fed up with the navy life. Salty refers to their temperament has been replaced with sea salt and misery.

Don’t worry, every single one of us has felt salty at times, especially when we’re being razzed or roasted by friends. Feeing salty won’t last forever and your friends will probably move on and start roasting someone else. The best thing that you can do is not show how much what people are saying actually bothers you and try to act non-chalant and cool about the situation. The moment people see that they are getting to you, they will start winding you up, ratcheting it up and teasing you even more.

Instead, keep calm and use a few great comebacks in a joking way and let them know that you’re really OK and no so salty after all.

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Not everyone you meet will like you

Some people just won't like you no matter what you do
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Not everyone is going to like you, it’s the cold hard truth and maybe it sucks, but that’s just reality. Some folks will never become your super fans no matter how much time and energy you invest into trying to win them over. Try not to take it personally, because there is nothing you can do, you have no control over other people’s opinions.

You are not going to have mental affinity with every single person that you meet, and that’s OK. When you think about it, there are people that you just naturally relate to like more than others. Think back to when you met someone you instantly liked and you just got each other, the jokes, the shows and people you followed.

If someone doesn’t like you don’t waste your valuable life energy trying to win the person over. Be kind, be civil, think nice thoughts about the person, and move on with your life and focus on yourself.

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Don’t change who you are to get others to like you

Don’t change who you are to please others, you have so many unique and wonderful gifts that people appreciate about you. Focus on the great people in your life who already know how amazing you are, and what you bring to the table in a friendship or relationship.

Think about it, why do you really care if someone doesn’t like you? In the grand scheme of your life, it doesn’t matter, you have got shit to do, you are an important person, you were put on this earth for a reason.

If you keep getting the same negative response from people, you may want to reflect on your behaviour in certain situations. Perhaps there is something you need to change in the way that you relate to others? OK, this is going to sound really woo woo, but consider what are you putting out in the world towards people. Are you being critical or negative towards individuals who have a strange response to you?

I have found that when you think negative thoughts about people they can actually sense it. When I stopped thinking negative thoughts about people my life totally transformed and I no longer had issues with anybody. The person may think that you don’t like them and they could be projecting that back to you.

At the end of the day, keep on being you and focus on the great things in your life.

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What to say when an online troll insults you

How to respond to online trolls

When a troll criticizes your work online, you may feel like you have just been sucker punched. Urban Dictionary  describes a troll as, “Someone who deliberately pisses people off online to get a reaction. “Being a creator and stepping out of your comfort zone takes tremendous courage, and many people are not willing to put themselves out there, which is why they sit in the back row of life and heckle others.

Being criticized, as a newbie can be devastating, you may find yourself thinking, “0h my God, is my work really that bad, is it that terrible? Should I stop doing this?” The truth is you shouldn’t quit, nobody is good at something right off the bat. You start off as a newbie, and then you move into the messy middle where you’re building up your skills, it’s still hard but you’re getting a little bit better. Over time you start to get good at something, but if you quit now, you will forever remain a newbie.

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Whenever you put something out into the world a troll will have something to say

When you create something and put it out to the world thirty percent of the people will love it, thirty percent will hate it and thirty percent won’t care. The sooner you can accept the truth you realize that if someone doesn’t like your work it’s not worth taking it personally.

Stepping out of your comfort zone and doing something new is like building a muscle, the more you do it the easier it gets. There are even challenges you can do to help stretch your courage muscle. Noah Kagan created the stranger challenge to help people get comfortable being uncomfortable. If you wantto step out of your comfort zone try one of Noah’s challenges.

Many people dream about being a celebrity, they see all of the great perks, going on TV shows, getting free swag, but the reality is that all of these celebrities are heckled daily, and they have to deal with critics and trolls.

You can waste your time worrying about haters, but a better strategy is to keep building your craft and getting better every day. There are a couple of things you can say to the trolls, but truthfully, I wouldn’t even bother.

I look back at work that was originally on my blog and I just cringe, it was so bad. It was good at the time for me, probably my best work. Over time, you are going to get so much better and you would be better off focusing your energy on your craft whatever that may be for you.

Here are a few things you can say to shut up the hater, but personally, I wouldn’t bother saying anything to a troll because their goal is to get you all wound up and to react.

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What to say when people tell you how to live your life

How to respond when someone tells you how to life your life

One thing that drives me bonkers is when people tell you how to life your life. The person telling you what you should do and how you should do it may have your best interest at heart, but they can’t truly know what is right for you. Every single one of us is born with unique talents and traits. Your job is to find out what your gift is and share it with the world.

If your mean aunt Bertha criticizes your dreams, you need to stop sharing what you are up to with her immediately. When she nosily asks what you’re planning next, keep it light and share something trivial detail about your life, like what show you are watching on Netflix.

Often we have big life goals that we want to accomplish, and it can be shocking when people trying to talk us out of our dreams. Many folks can’t see things outside of the paradigm that they grew up with, if you were raised by a family of accountants, they may recommend that accounting is the best path for you to follow.

My husband told a coworker that he had just attended an Amazon selling conference in Las Vegas and met many 30-year-old millionaires. His coworker just could not believe that it was possible to make a living off Amazon, it was so outside of his idea of what was truly possible that it wasn’t even a reality that he could consider. When people tell you how to live your life they are really sharing their paradigm of the world is and what they believe is possible.

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Here are a few things you can say to shut the person up when they tell you how to live your life.

Top Ten Comebacks when someone tells you how to live your life

  1. If you have an opinion about my life please raise your hand, and put it over your mouth!
  2. I’d rather regret the things that I’ve done than regret the things I haven’t done.
  3. I don’t let people make me feel bad or guilty for living my life the way I want to live it.
  4. It’s my life.I am living life the way I want to. If you have a problem with that, well I ‘m sorry but this is mylife not yours. I don’t tell you how to live your life.
  5. I can’t live my life for other people, I’ve got to do what’s right for me.
  6. Remember when I asked for your opinion? Yeah, me neither.
  7. I just live my life on my own terms. And you know what, I smile a lot!
  8. We only have 40,000 days on the planet, why would I spend that time doing what you want me to do?
  9. I know my life is a mess.. But I don’t need to you sort me out or put me in place. I just need you to support me as I get myself together.
  10. I don’t recall asking for your opinion.
When people tell you how to live your life

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