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What to say to someone who makes snarky comments

How to respond when someone who makes rude remarks

When someone makes snarky remarks towards you it gets pretty old quickly. You can tell that the person has a problem with you, especially when they jump on everything single thing that you say.

It is not OK for someone to verbally bully you, at a certain point, you need to take a stand and let the person know that their behaviour is unacceptable. With family and work situations we have a lot to lose relationship-wise, so it can be better to respond with a smart but clean retort.

It’s true that you can choose your friends but not your family or workmates. Janice’s son in law was a smart ass, and he was incredibly rude towards her no matter what she said or did. At every family event he would shut her down publicly anytime she tried to engage in conversation with anyone at the table.

Janice decided to let him know she thought he was being rude, but she didn’t want to stoop to his level and create more issues within the family. The next time he made a snide comment towards her she politely put him in his place and repeated the process for the next three rude comments. By the end of the dinner, her son in law looked like the family jackass who was causing trouble anytime she spoke.

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You can’t control what other people do, however you can choose your reaction to it. Next time someone is making rude comments and snarky remarks towards you, shut them down with one of our great comebacks and come off looking like the good guy.

Top ten replies for someone who makes snarky comments

  1. Enough already with the snide comments.
  2. When you’re ready to talk to me respectfully, I will be ready to listen to you.
  3. Maybe you should look at how you are treating me before complaining how I react to you.
  4. OK, that’s enough sarcasm for one day.
  5. I am not sure if you are being funny or being a jerk.
  6. It was really hurtful when you called me X.  I need you to talk to me in a respectful manner.
  7. Maturing is realizing how many things don’t need a comment.
  8. It’s a beautiful day to leave me alone and stop making snarky remarks.
  9. If you can’t be kind be quiet.
  10. Life is funny… people will point out what’s wrong with you but they can’t see what’s wrong with themselves.
Oops, my bad. I thought I was dealing with an adult

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What to say when a person is trying to change you

What to say when someone is trying to change you

Lazy people like to blame others for their own problems and shortcomings. Rather than put in the work to improve themselves, they point out how everyone else around them needs to change. They might start by saying that you need to change the way you dress, chew your food or who you hang out with. Slowly over time, their criticism can start to chip away at the essence of who you really are.

When a friend or loved one tries to change who you are it is very hurtful. There is a difference between genuine helpful feedback and a petty personal opinion.

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If someone gives you honest feedback about how you can improve your life you probably want to listen and possibly implement some of it. Constructive feedback doesn’t include personal attacks on who you are, like the way you look or interact in the world.

When a person says that you need to change, it doesn’t mean that there is anything wrong with you, try and remember that it is just one person’s personal opinion. Just because someone doesn’t like something about you doesn’t mean it’s a bad trait.

Many famous people were rejected and told to change something about themselves that eventually became their trademark. Cindy Crawford was told that she needed to remove a mole, Lauren Hutton was told to fix her teeth, she refused and became famous for her gapped tooth smile. Two publishers passed on Harry Potter, now imagine explaining how you turned that book down to your boss! Some folks can’t see talent or beauty even if it is standing right in front of them.

When someone asks you to change, let them know that you are happy the way you are using one of our great comebacks.

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When a friend is a clandestine bully

My friend is a bully



Have ever had a friend who is a clandestine bully who snipes at you and makes rude comments? You can only be left wondering if this person is really your friend at all.

Today we are interviewing Cali, who dealt with a friend who kept insulting her. Cali’s roommate would make rude and snide comments towards her in public and when they were alone. Her roommate, Lina, could actually be pretty nice, but she had this horrible side that would come out and say nasty things.

So how did you meet your roommate?

We actually worked at the same office, we were both going back to school and we decided that we should share an apartment for two years. At work, she seemed incredibly nice, kind and professional so it looked like we would be a good fit to live together.

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When did your roommate start making comments to you?

Lina was fine for the first six months, then she would start to make snide little digs at me every now and again.

How did you respond to her put downs and rude comments?

When she first started making snide comments I was taken aback and a little astonished. I wasn’t quick enough on my feet to say something back to her. I don’t verbally attack people, it’s not who I am so I put up with it for the first little while, until she escalated her behaviour and started publicly embarrassing me.

Can you share how she publicly embarrassed you?

Well, it is embarrassing even to tell it here. I said to Lina one day that I wish my breasts were a little bit bigger. I wasn’t about to run out and get breast implants or anything like that, I was pretty happy with my body but a slightly larger chest would have been nice.

Lina had a large chest but it wasn’t the kind that you wished you had. She was overweight and had saggy breasts. She was attractive enough, in a matronly kind of way.

Lina started making weird comments to me about how her breasts were so big and mine were so small. It was a little strange.

After a while, Lina started making rude comments to me publicly. We had eight friends over for a get-together, there were men and women there. During the evening when everyone was there, Lina mentioned how her breasts were so big and if she had to paint the room with her chest it would take her two minutes, but it would take me two weeks because my chest was so much smaller than hers. I could tell other people thought it was a little weird. I was horrified that she would stay such a thing.

How did you respond when she publicly embarrassed you?

Well, I just took it. I was so shocked that someone would say something like that to me publicly, especially in front of mixed company. I was dumbfounded, I couldn’t believe it.

Did you just let it go, what happened?

Well, a couple of weeks later, she said to me “Do my breasts look too big in this shirt?” I responded by saying, “Your chest would probably look a little less saggy in a different shirt.

Lina never mentioned her large breasts to me again. Standing up to her verbally shut her up for good.

Are you still friends?

Well, Lina had some nice traits, she was smart and funny but at the end of the day, she felt comfortable putting me down publicly and embarrassing me in front of others. That’s not exactly what I would describe as a friend.

After all her insults, I decided that I just didn’t want to be around her anymore. In fact, I didn’t want to ever see her again. She had several people drop out of her life and never want to see her again, which is kind of telling.

How did you end the relationship?

I decided to move at a time that wasn’t convenient for her but I didn’t care. Lina was really pissed off about it, but the thing is I felt so uncomfortable around her after her rude behaviour, she really brought it all on herself.

I haven’t seen her since I moved, although I read about her sometimes because she is very successful in her field and is sometimes in media articles. I am really glad about the decision to end the friendship and to have moved on. I just wish that I had found your site I Should Have Said.. earlie, I would have come up with a much better comeback and shut her up earlier. Maybe things would have turned out differently.

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How to respond when people make fun of your hairline

What to say when you are roasted for your hairline

For guys, a receding hairline is one of the worst things that can ever happen, not only does is suck that your hairline is receding, but even worse, it could be leading to a path to baldness.

For some reason people like to make jokes about hairlines, Reddit even has a thread Roast my hairline. No doubt you have heard all the lame hairline jokes before.

Remember every single one of us has something hideous about us that we could all be roasted for, nobody is immune. The guy who is ribbing you may have a spotty face or the girl who makes a snide comment may be carrying a few extra pounds.

There is not much you can do to stop a receding hairline unless you have a ton of cash, but you can certainly shut up the people who are giving you a hard time about it.

Next time someone roasts for your hairline, use one of our clever comebacks below.

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Your hairline jokes are so bad, you make me want to pull out the hair I have left.
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A pretty face needs space.
Your mama pulled all the hair right off my head.

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Top ten things to say to someone who is stuck in their life

Kind things to say to someone who is stuck

It can be hard to watch a friend or a loved one who is stuck in a negative situation. They may be dating a total loser, can’t find the right career path or they are abusing their health? When a person is stuck they are not living up to their true potential or creating the life they are truly worthy of living.

We all have the power to change our lives but some people can’t see that they are actually in charge of their own destiny. They blame others or think that outside circumstances dictate their reality, when in fact it is the action they take and how they think about a certain situation that creates the circumstances of their life.

People have to want to get unstuck from their situation

When you care about someone, you want to step in and make the situation better, but the truth is the only person who has the power to get unstuck is the person themselves. We can’t change something for someone body else, they have to want the change and be willing to put in the work to make it happen.

You are under no obligation to listen to endless complaining about the situation they have got themselves into. A friend of mine used to complain that she was single, I told her she needed to take action or she would remain in the same situation. Low and behold, she found the man of her dreams online and is living her happily ever after.

If you want to give someone a wakeup call, and let them know you think that they’re stuck, use one of our great sayings below.

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Top ten things to say to someone who is stuck in their life

  1. Growth is painful. Change is painful. But nothing is more painful than being stuck where you don’t belong.
  2. The secret of your future is hidden in your daily routine.
  3. The path to success is to take massive, determined action.
  4. Don’t get stuck in your past, use it to fuel your future.
  5. Life doesn’t get better by chance, it gets better by change.
  6. If you always do what you always done, you will always get what you’ve always had.
  7. Only you can change your life, no one can do it for you.
  8. Great things never came from comfort zones.
  9. Your life doesn’t get better by chance, it gets better by change.
  10. If you don’t like the road your walking on, start paving another one.
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