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When your child is being bullied and you don’t know what to do

How to help your bullied child.

When your child is being bullied and you don’t know what to do it can leave you feeling helpless. I know firsthand, when my son’s friend turned against him and tried to turn the entire class of boys against him I felt so overwhelmed. I had no idea how to solve the problem and I felt powerless. We managed to not only turn the situation around but also stop the bullying and empower our son at the same time.

There are actions you can take and solutions to help stop your child’s bullying. It is easy to blame the other child or teenager, but if your child is continually being bullied there is some behavior that your child needs to change to stop being a bullying magnet.

Kids and adults can smell weakness in another person, they can sense when someone is not confident by the way that they carry themselves and interact in the world. One boy shared that you can tell how popular a kid thinks that they are by the way that they walk.

Many well-intentioned parents will tell their kids to just ignore a bully, that they shouldn’t talk back to mean kid, but then the situations get worse and can escalate. Ignoring something will not make it go away; you are just giving the bully more power and a free pass to torment your child.

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There are three things parents can do to stop your child’s bullying

1. Report the bullying to the school, the school is legally obligated to take action

2. Teach your child how to verbally defend themselves and deflect bullies

3. Teach your child to be more confident and assertive

Get the details of what has been going on at school, ask your child questions to find out the full story, sometimes kids can’t see the full picture, only a snapshot in time. Find out how long the person has been picking on your child, if the situation has been resolved or if it was a one-off thing or an ongoing situation.

Teach your kids how to verbally defend themselves and how to be prepared for a verbal attack. When a bully insults your child publicly, and your child responds with a comeback that shuts the bully up it gives your child street cred.

The comebacks your child uses don’t need to be rude, they just need to deflect the bully and let them know that your child is not someone they can continually pick on. When a child responds with a quick wit, bullies usually move on to someone who is an easier target.

Our site receives emails from psychologists and teachers requesting comebacks that can help their clients and students. Kids can learn to be more confident and assertive; it is a skill that can be improved with practice.

What to say when people attack your political views

How to respond when people have different political views

When you talk to people and challenge their political beliefs, it can lead to arguments and the end of friendships. People can get angry and worked up when someone doesn’t agree with their political point of view.

America seems to be more politically polarized than ever before in history, and instead of debating topics people are battling it out with each other. Even if you disagree with someone else’s point of view, it is important to express your opinion it a respectful and civil manner.

Many people define themselves by their political beliefs and feel that they can’t be friends with someone who has a fundamentally different point of view.

Things have gotten so bad that even children can be bullied at school for their beliefs. When a teenager in California shared an Instagram post stating that she supported Trump, and hoped he would win the election, she was physically attacked at school. Other students laughed and filmed the politically motivated assault.

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Having different opinions is what makes the world go around; if we were all the same, the world would be a pretty boring place.

Here are a few clever things you can say as verbal self defense next time you are attacked for your beliefs.

Top ten comebacks when people insult your political views

  1. So you’re telling me that everyone has a right to their own opinion unless it’s different from yours?
  2. Many people don’t know this, but it’s possible to hear something you don’t agree with and just simply move on with your life.
  3. Being constantly offended doesn’t mean you’re right.
  4. Insulting someone for having a different opinion from yours is just so mature.
  5. Just because someone has a different opinion from you doesn’t mean you have to scream at them and tell them they’re wrong.
  6. People are entitled to have a different opinion from you.
  7. Let’s agree to disagree.
  8. Everyone is entitled to their opinion but no one is entitled to belittle someone else’s.
  9. There is a difference between expressing your opinion and being rude.
  10. Just because you believe something doesn’t make it true.
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Clever replies when people call you Emo

Funny comebacks when people call you emo

Urban Dictionary’s definition of an Emo person is “a depressed person who has dark hair that covers 3/5 of their face, they wear converse, skinny jeans, and tight shirts.” Emo is associated with a music subculture that was popular from 2000 on, with white suburban youth.

We all know that you if you are a non-conformist in any way, people will call you weird or a freak.  Conservative people like to slam those who stand out, who aren’t afraid to be different and take a stand against things.

Emos are known to be melodramatic and overly sensitive about their problems. Being dramatic about issues probably describes 90 percent of the teenage population on the planet.

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Emo people are known to stand up for oppressed causes, stating their political views and share how they feel about things.

Next time someone calls you Emo, use one of our great comebacks to shut them up.

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Learn how parents caught bullies with hidden cameras

Catch a school bully with a hidden camera

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Many parents have used cameras if they suspect that their child is being bullied at school and they want to get to the bottom of what is really going on. Jacqueline, the mother of a 10 year old, could not understand what was happening at school causing her daughter to be so upset and withdrawn. After asking her daughter and trying to figure out what was wrong without getting any answers, she decided to take matters into her own hands. Jacqueline purchased a small camera that looked like a happy face button and put it on her daughter’s clothing.

What she found out was surprising, her daughter’s supposed best friend was acting like a bully and excluding her daughter from their friend group. Knowing what was really happening gave Jacqueline the tools to help her daughter deal with the situation. Kids can miss subtle social cues, sometimes they don’t actually know what is going on and can’t articulate the problem when you ask themwhat’s bothering them.

4 steps to bullyproof your child quickly

PROTECT YOUR CHILD FROM BULLIES

Do you worry about your child being picked on? Our Bully Proof Your Child Guide will show you how to bullyproof your child in just 4 simple steps. It’s a game changer–get it free for a limited time!

Using a camera to capture bullying may not be legal everywhere, using a hidden camera you may be breaking a law. For some parents taking that chance is worth it, in the case of Kandy Escotto who found out her five year old son was being bullied by his kindergarten teacher. Her son’s teacher, RosalbSuarez,who was named teacher of the year was caught on tape verbally bullying her son.

May our our readers have reached out to us about hidden cameras they have used. Below are the top recommendations for catching bullying at school

3 Hidden Cameras Parents Recommend for Capturing School Bullying

The smiley face button hidden camera

Catch a bully with a hidden smiley face button

The happy face button is the perfect hidden camera for school age children, it can be pinned on your child’s clothing, and the button records audio and video. You can also set it to audio only, the unit is time and date stamped, which needs to be set. The camera comes with a 4 gig SD card, you can expand the memory up to 16 gig.

A water bottle spy camera is suitable for catching classroom bullying

Your child can leave the water bottle on their desk and point the camera lens in the direction of the person you are trying to catch on camera. The water bottle can also be set to record remotely or by motion detection. A water bottle is the perfect cover and placing it on your child’s desk you will most likely capture everything you want to see.

Spy camera hidden in pen

Catch bullies with a hidden camera in a pen

My friend placed a hidden camera pen in her son’s shirt pocket and captured video of a boy who was trying to cause trouble for her son. She had close ups and could see that the child who was the bully was not of a right mind, almost paranoid. Having such great close up footage helped her assess the situation and guide the conversation with her child’s teacher to sort the situation out.

 

What to say to someone who makes snarky comments

How to respond when someone who makes rude remarks

When someone makes snarky remarks towards you it gets pretty old quickly. You can tell that the person has a problem with you, especially when they jump on everything single thing that you say.

It is not OK for someone to verbally bully you, at a certain point, you need to take a stand and let the person know that their behaviour is unacceptable. With family and work situations we have a lot to lose relationship-wise, so it can be better to respond with a smart but clean retort.

It’s true that you can choose your friends but not your family or workmates. Janice’s son in law was a smart ass, and he was incredibly rude towards her no matter what she said or did. At every family event he would shut her down publicly anytime she tried to engage in conversation with anyone at the table.

Janice decided to let him know she thought he was being rude, but she didn’t want to stoop to his level and create more issues within the family. The next time he made a snide comment towards her she politely put him in his place and repeated the process for the next three rude comments. By the end of the dinner, her son in law looked like the family jackass who was causing trouble anytime she spoke.

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You can’t control what other people do, however you can choose your reaction to it. Next time someone is making rude comments and snarky remarks towards you, shut them down with one of our great comebacks and come off looking like the good guy.

Top ten replies for someone who makes snarky comments

  1. Enough already with the snide comments.
  2. When you’re ready to talk to me respectfully, I will be ready to listen to you.
  3. Maybe you should look at how you are treating me before complaining how I react to you.
  4. OK, that’s enough sarcasm for one day.
  5. I am not sure if you are being funny or being a jerk.
  6. It was really hurtful when you called me X.  I need you to talk to me in a respectful manner.
  7. Maturing is realizing how many things don’t need a comment.
  8. It’s a beautiful day to leave me alone and stop making snarky remarks.
  9. If you can’t be kind be quiet.
  10. Life is funny… people will point out what’s wrong with you but they can’t see what’s wrong with themselves.
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