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Not everyone you meet will like you

Some people just won't like you no matter what you do
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Not everyone is going to like you, it’s the cold hard truth and maybe it sucks, but that’s just reality. Some folks will never become your super fans no matter how much time and energy you invest into trying to win them over. Try not to take it personally, because there is nothing you can do, you have no control over other people’s opinions.

You are not going to have mental affinity with every single person that you meet, and that’s OK. When you think about it, there are people that you just naturally relate to like more than others. Think back to when you met someone you instantly liked and you just got each other, the jokes, the shows and people you followed.

If someone doesn’t like you don’t waste your valuable life energy trying to win the person over. Be kind, be civil, think nice thoughts about the person, and move on with your life and focus on yourself.

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Don’t change who you are to get others to like you

Don’t change who you are to please others, you have so many unique and wonderful gifts that people appreciate about you. Focus on the great people in your life who already know how amazing you are, and what you bring to the table in a friendship or relationship.

Think about it, why do you really care if someone doesn’t like you? In the grand scheme of your life, it doesn’t matter, you have got shit to do, you are an important person, you were put on this earth for a reason.

If you keep getting the same negative response from people, you may want to reflect on your behaviour in certain situations. Perhaps there is something you need to change in the way that you relate to others? OK, this is going to sound really woo woo, but consider what are you putting out in the world towards people. Are you being critical or negative towards individuals who have a strange response to you?

I have found that when you think negative thoughts about people they can actually sense it. When I stopped thinking negative thoughts about people my life totally transformed and I no longer had issues with anybody. The person may think that you don’t like them and they could be projecting that back to you.

At the end of the day, keep on being you and focus on the great things in your life.

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What to say when an online troll insults you

How to respond to online trolls

When a troll criticizes your work online, you may feel like you have just been sucker punched. Urban Dictionary  describes a troll as, “Someone who deliberately pisses people off online to get a reaction. “Being a creator and stepping out of your comfort zone takes tremendous courage, and many people are not willing to put themselves out there, which is why they sit in the back row of life and heckle others.

Being criticized, as a newbie can be devastating, you may find yourself thinking, “0h my God, is my work really that bad, is it that terrible? Should I stop doing this?” The truth is you shouldn’t quit, nobody is good at something right off the bat. You start off as a newbie, and then you move into the messy middle where you’re building up your skills, it’s still hard but you’re getting a little bit better. Over time you start to get good at something, but if you quit now, you will forever remain a newbie.

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Whenever you put something out into the world a troll will have something to say

When you create something and put it out to the world thirty percent of the people will love it, thirty percent will hate it and thirty percent won’t care. The sooner you can accept the truth you realize that if someone doesn’t like your work it’s not worth taking it personally.

Stepping out of your comfort zone and doing something new is like building a muscle, the more you do it the easier it gets. There are even challenges you can do to help stretch your courage muscle. Noah Kagan created the stranger challenge to help people get comfortable being uncomfortable. If you wantto step out of your comfort zone try one of Noah’s challenges.

Many people dream about being a celebrity, they see all of the great perks, going on TV shows, getting free swag, but the reality is that all of these celebrities are heckled daily, and they have to deal with critics and trolls.

You can waste your time worrying about haters, but a better strategy is to keep building your craft and getting better every day. There are a couple of things you can say to the trolls, but truthfully, I wouldn’t even bother.

I look back at work that was originally on my blog and I just cringe, it was so bad. It was good at the time for me, probably my best work. Over time, you are going to get so much better and you would be better off focusing your energy on your craft whatever that may be for you.

Here are a few things you can say to shut up the hater, but personally, I wouldn’t bother saying anything to a troll because their goal is to get you all wound up and to react.

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What to say when people tell you how to live your life

How to respond when someone tells you how to life your life

One thing that drives me bonkers is when people tell you how to life your life. The person telling you what you should do and how you should do it may have your best interest at heart, but they can’t truly know what is right for you. Every single one of us is born with unique talents and traits. Your job is to find out what your gift is and share it with the world.

If your mean aunt Bertha criticizes your dreams, you need to stop sharing what you are up to with her immediately. When she nosily asks what you’re planning next, keep it light and share something trivial detail about your life, like what show you are watching on Netflix.

Often we have big life goals that we want to accomplish, and it can be shocking when people trying to talk us out of our dreams. Many folks can’t see things outside of the paradigm that they grew up with, if you were raised by a family of accountants, they may recommend that accounting is the best path for you to follow.

My husband told a coworker that he had just attended an Amazon selling conference in Las Vegas and met many 30-year-old millionaires. His coworker just could not believe that it was possible to make a living off Amazon, it was so outside of his idea of what was truly possible that it wasn’t even a reality that he could consider. When people tell you how to live your life they are really sharing their paradigm of the world is and what they believe is possible.

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Here are a few things you can say to shut the person up when they tell you how to live your life.

Top Ten Comebacks when someone tells you how to live your life

  1. If you have an opinion about my life please raise your hand, and put it over your mouth!
  2. I’d rather regret the things that I’ve done than regret the things I haven’t done.
  3. I don’t let people make me feel bad or guilty for living my life the way I want to live it.
  4. It’s my life.I am living life the way I want to. If you have a problem with that, well I ‘m sorry but this is mylife not yours. I don’t tell you how to live your life.
  5. I can’t live my life for other people, I’ve got to do what’s right for me.
  6. Remember when I asked for your opinion? Yeah, me neither.
  7. I just live my life on my own terms. And you know what, I smile a lot!
  8. We only have 40,000 days on the planet, why would I spend that time doing what you want me to do?
  9. I know my life is a mess.. But I don’t need to you sort me out or put me in place. I just need you to support me as I get myself together.
  10. I don’t recall asking for your opinion.
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When your child is being bullied and you don’t know what to do

How to help your bullied child.

When your child is being bullied and you don’t know what to do it can leave you feeling helpless. I know firsthand, when my son’s friend turned against him and tried to turn the entire class of boys against him I felt so overwhelmed. I had no idea how to solve the problem and I felt powerless. We managed to not only turn the situation around but also stop the bullying and empower our son at the same time.

There are actions you can take and solutions to help stop your child’s bullying. It is easy to blame the other child or teenager, but if your child is continually being bullied there is some behavior that your child needs to change to stop being a bullying magnet.

Kids and adults can smell weakness in another person, they can sense when someone is not confident by the way that they carry themselves and interact in the world. One boy shared that you can tell how popular a kid thinks that they are by the way that they walk.

Many well-intentioned parents will tell their kids to just ignore a bully, that they shouldn’t talk back to mean kid, but then the situations get worse and can escalate. Ignoring something will not make it go away; you are just giving the bully more power and a free pass to torment your child.

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There are three things parents can do to stop your child’s bullying

1. Report the bullying to the school, the school is legally obligated to take action

2. Teach your child how to verbally defend themselves and deflect bullies

3. Teach your child to be more confident and assertive

Get the details of what has been going on at school, ask your child questions to find out the full story, sometimes kids can’t see the full picture, only a snapshot in time. Find out how long the person has been picking on your child, if the situation has been resolved or if it was a one-off thing or an ongoing situation.

Teach your kids how to verbally defend themselves and how to be prepared for a verbal attack. When a bully insults your child publicly, and your child responds with a comeback that shuts the bully up it gives your child street cred.

The comebacks your child uses don’t need to be rude, they just need to deflect the bully and let them know that your child is not someone they can continually pick on. When a child responds with a quick wit, bullies usually move on to someone who is an easier target.

Our site receives emails from psychologists and teachers requesting comebacks that can help their clients and students. Kids can learn to be more confident and assertive; it is a skill that can be improved with practice.


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What to say when people attack your political views

How to respond when people have different political views

When you talk to people and challenge their political beliefs, it can lead to arguments and the end of friendships. People can get angry and worked up when someone doesn’t agree with their political point of view.

America seems to be more politically polarized than ever before in history, and instead of debating topics people are battling it out with each other. Even if you disagree with someone else’s point of view, it is important to express your opinion it a respectful and civil manner.

Many people define themselves by their political beliefs and feel that they can’t be friends with someone who has a fundamentally different point of view.

Things have gotten so bad that even children can be bullied at school for their beliefs. When a teenager in California shared an Instagram post stating that she supported Trump, and hoped he would win the election, she was physically attacked at school. Other students laughed and filmed the politically motivated assault.

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Having different opinions is what makes the world go around; if we were all the same, the world would be a pretty boring place.

Here are a few clever things you can say as verbal self defense next time you are attacked for your beliefs.

Top ten comebacks when people insult your political views

  1. So you’re telling me that everyone has a right to their own opinion unless it’s different from yours?
  2. Many people don’t know this, but it’s possible to hear something you don’t agree with and just simply move on with your life.
  3. Being constantly offended doesn’t mean you’re right.
  4. Insulting someone for having a different opinion from yours is just so mature.
  5. Just because someone has a different opinion from you doesn’t mean you have to scream at them and tell them they’re wrong.
  6. People are entitled to have a different opinion from you.
  7. Let’s agree to disagree.
  8. Everyone is entitled to their opinion but no one is entitled to belittle someone else’s.
  9. There is a difference between expressing your opinion and being rude.
  10. Just because you believe something doesn’t make it true.
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