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What to say when things don’t work out as planned

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Kind words when things don't work out for someone

We have all had times in our lives when things didn’t work out as planned, you may have had a dream of going to a school or working for a certain company. Sometimes your initial dream doesn’t pan out and life takes you on a detour.

When you have put in all the effort to achieve your dream, it can be disappointing when something you have been working towards doesn’t work out the way you envisioned that it would. Sometimes life pushes you in another direction because the universe has something even better planned for you. Things not working out are just a slight diversion towards an even bigger goal.

You can’t always change the situation, but you certainly can control your reaction to what has happened. You may not get into the university you always wanted to go to and then you find the school you were accepted in has an even better program that is suited to your needs.

There is a very interesting book called The Surrender Experiment where a guy follows what the universe had planned for him. He couldn’t have dreamed up a bigger life if he had tried.

Here are a few kind words you can say to someone who is upset with an outcome of a big dream.

Kind words for someone when things don’t work out as expected

  1. Sometimes your plans don’t work out because god has better ones.
  2. Life is ten percent what happens to you and ninety percent how you respond to it.
  3. When nothing goes right… go left.
  4. When obstacles arise, you change your direction to reach your goal, you do not change your decision to get there.
  5. Winners are not people who never fail, but people who never quit.
  6. Some changes look negative on the surface but you will soon realize that space is being created in your life for something new to emerge.
  7. Sometimes things fall apart so better things can fall into place.
  8. Failure s nothing more than a chance to revise your strategy.
  9. Just stick with it… What seems hard now, will one day be your warm up.
  10. When things don’t work out it is never a failure but always a lesson.

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Top ten comebacks for a gossip

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What to say to someone who is gossiping about you.

Do you have a friend who gossips about you or other people? It can be beyond hurtful to find out that someone that you thought was a good friend is talking about you behind your back. Be careful who you trust. If someone talks about others with you, they will certainly talk about you with others.

We have all been taught we shouldn’t talk about people behind their backs, but some people can’t help themselves and constantly talk negatively about others.

Jared was friends with a girl in high school. He had been warned that Clarissa was a gossip, but he thought she seemed nice. He found out during the summer that she had been spreading rumours that he was gay even though he had never told her such a thing and liked girls. Jared realized he could not be friends with such a toxic person and distanced himself from her. He was still in a tennis club with Clarissa, so he couldn’t avoid her completely. He heard from coaches and others that she had been saying horrible and shocking things about him that weren’t true. The funny thing is that in time, people found out who she really was and nobody liked her. She kept repeating the same pattern.

If you get tired of being contaminated by the gossip’s poison and want them to stop, here are a few things you can say to let the gossip know that you don’t want any part of it.

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Top ten comebacks for a gossip

  1. If you have a problem with me, tell me, not everyone else.
  2. It doesn’t bother me that you talk about me behind my back. What bothers me is you don’t get all your facts right.
  3. What’s that? You heard a bunch of stuff about me from someone who hates me? That MUST be true!
  4. If it’s not your story to tell don’t tell it.
  5. I never judge someone by the opinion of another.
  6. If you didn’t hear it with your own ears, or see it with your own eyes. Don’t invent it with your small mind and share it with your big mouth!
  7. Rumours, carried by haters, spread by fools and accepted by the ignorant.
  8. The crap you heard about me might be true, or it could be as fake as the person who told you.
  9. Rumours, I found cut so much about myself didn’t’ even know.
  10. If it doesn’t involve you it shouldn’t concern you.
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Perez Hilton started his career being a gossip

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Perez Hilton is a notorious gossip, he created the infamous Hollywood gossip blog PerezHilton.com He started blogging in 2005 and he is now reportedly worth be $30 million.

Perez is openly gay, on his blog he tries to out celebrities who are secretly gay. Hilton has been criticized for exposing things that people are not ready to share publicly. Perez responded to the criticism by saying to Access Hollywood.:

It upsets me that people think what I’m doing is a bad thing”, I don’t think it’s a bad thing. If you know something to be a fact, why not report it? Why is that still taboo?

I guess Perez has no trouble sleeping at night.

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What to say to a blamer

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Great comebacks for people who blame others for their problems

No matter what the circumstances are, there are always people who blame others whenever anything doesn’t go their way. Blamers are incapable of accepting responsibility for their actions or for being part of the problem. The only thing that they are concerned about is condemning someone else and pointing out what they did wrong.

Blamers truly believe that they have never done anything wrong. They see themselves as the victim in the situation, no matter what the reality is, and it is always someone else’s fault. The problem with blaming things outside of yourself is that things can never get better in your life because you need someone else to change before your situation can improve.

Jasmine blamed her parents for her weight problems. As a child, they let her eat rubbish food. At 29, Jasmine was in control of the food she shoved into her mouth, but she still blamed her parents for her eating problem. She couldn’t solve the problem or shed the 50 pounds she needed to lose.

Jasmine needed to be accountable for her actions and eat less. Blaming her parents would never lead to actual weight loss.

If you get tired of the blaming behavior, here are some clever comebacks you can say to get your message across loud and clear.

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If you get tired of the blaming behavior, here are some clever comebacks you can say to get your message across loud and clear.

Top Ten Comebacks for a Blamer

  1. If everywhere you go there’s a problem.. Guess what?
  2. No really, it’s adorable when you blame everyone but yourself.
  3. No one is coming to save you. This life of yours is 100% your responsibility.
  4. Take responsibility for your actions. You only look like a fool when trying to blame other people for your behaviour.
  5. When you blame others you give up your power to grow.
  6. Some people create their own storms and then get upset when it rains.
  7. If you’re tired of a drama in your life, just quit being the actor.
  8. You give yourself credit for your happiness and accomplishments, yet you have a list of people to blame for your bitterness and failures.
  9. When people point fingers at others they should remember that they have four fingers pointing back at them.
  10. Reap what you sow and own it!

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What to say to a judgmental person

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Great comebacks for judgemental people

We’ve all met them — judgmental people who think they’re always right about everything and everyone else is wrong. To arrogant people like this, anything anybody does is never right or quite good enough.

Judgmental people be exhausting to be around, spreading their doubt and fear and criticizing others and their dreams. After spending time with a judgmental person, you leave, questioning your own life choices and direction.

Listening to judgmental people can be detrimental to your future

Don’t listen when a limited person projects their opinion about your life. In 1919, Walt Disney was fired from the Kansas City Star because his editor said he “lacked imagination and had no good ideas.” If Walt had listened to the editor who fired him, the world wouldn’t have Mickey Mouse or Disney World.

It may seem like a judgmental person is making a judgment about you, but it really is a projection of their own reality and their ability, which has absolutely nothing to do with you.

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If you ever get tired of the judgmental comments, you can holler some of these snappy comebacks right back at them.

Top ten comebacks for judgmental people

  1. It’s so funny how the people who know the least about you, have the most to say. 
  2. While you were busy judging others, you left your closet door open and a lot of your skeletons fell out.
  3. You don’t like me? That’s a shame. I’ll pencil in some time to cry about it later . Right now, I’m busy enjoying my life.
  4. Before you judge my life, I suggest you take a good look at your own life.
  5. Before you judge me, make sure you’re perfect.
  6. If God has a problem with the way I live, let him tell me not you.
  7. Don’t judge me. I was born to be awesome…. not perfect.
  8. When you judge another you do not define them, it defines who you are.
  9. You’re the stereotype of someone always complaining about stereotypes.
  10. Don’t judge my path if you haven’t walked my journey.

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