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Comebacks when someone is spreading rumours about you

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When you find out that someone has been spreading rumours and gossiping about you it can be devastating. You feel like your stomach drops and you can’t believe that it is really happening. It is even worse if the betrayal is from somebody you considered a friend and you don’t know who to trust.

When a person is spreading rumours they are trying to turn people against someone or seek social status and become popular. Spreading rumours about others is a form of bullying.

Whatever you put out into the world comes back to you, so the person gossiping about you will eventually get kicked in the ass by karma.

If you want to let the big mouth know that you are aware they are spreading rumours about you, here are a few things that you can say to shock them and shut them up.

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Rumours are as dumb as the people spreading them and as fake as the person who started them.
I wish all those rumours I hear about me were true. My life would be so much more exciting than it actually is.
Remember, rumours about me are as true as the ones I hear about you.


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When you find out people are spreading rumours about you

Demi Lavato regrets gossiping and spreading rumours in high school

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Demi Lavato was bullied so severely that she left public school. Later on, she realized that by spreading rumours about others brought on some of the bullying to herself. At least can owns her bad behaviour.

There were things that I did in middle school that probably contributed to why girls treated me so poorly. I didn’t realize I was doing things that were also forms of bullying, like spreading rumors about people and gossiping. Gossip is essentially character assassination. When you spread rumors about someone, it’s a way of demoralizing them.-  Demi Lavato


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11 Responses

  1. Bryn your piece on spreading rumors is a must-read for high school students and you offer advice that I wish I had known back then. Today we continue to see rumors being spread online, especially in the media on their own social media outlets. The citizen journalists that work for some of these online news companies need to do a better job of verifying information and avoid spreading false rumors. I really enjoyed this piece and look forward to your other writings and make me think back to certain situations such as this.

    1. People were mean to me in fifth grade. It was because I had autism. When the teacher assigned someone to be partners they would gossip about me. It really hurt my feelings. I would rather have them say these things to my face. If they said that to me I could just assume they’re jerks. But if they’re gossiping about how I’m different it made me feel like it’s true. It made me feel like something is wrong with me. I didn’t tell the teacher because it seemed like I was telling on them for not liking me. Because of that I had low self esteem.

      I know that nobody cares.

      1. It’s ok that you have autism. I know you are a great person, and you are extremely kind and smart. Those kids.. they were just jerks. If you ever feel bad, ask yourself ‘Where are they now?’
        The world needs more of you

  2. I grew up with a lot of bullies in my life too, bullies at home, bullies at school, and bullies at work.. and after a while I noticed something about them. Bullies are really just weaklings trying to hide their own weaknesses by aggression. Bullies don”t understand their own emotions and so they bully because they are weak and feel threatened by anyone who seem to have it together and they want to bring anyone who seem stronger than them down to their level. Be proud you”re not weak like they are, it takes a lot of strength and courage to be kind and this world is so full of ignorant weaklings. If you can and as long as they don”t touch you, ignore and avoid them like the pests they are because their words have no meaning, they don”t know you, they just want to hurt you. Concentrate on improving yourself and don”t waste your attentions on them because that”s what they want. Bullies want attention and they want your reactions, once you stop giving that to them, they lose interest. I stopped wasting my attention and energy on negative people like bullies, they are energy vampires and they will exhaust you if you let them get to you. When you know your priorities, you can stop giving a sh*t and mentally block anyone who isn”t your friend off and anything they say is as good as your neighbor”s barking dog. Prioritize yourself and everything else is irrelevant.

  3. when you spread a mean rumour about someone I feel like you don’t know how bad it really feels unless you experience it yourself

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