Do you know someone who makes everything about them no matter what you say? If you mention something about you, they bring it back to themselves. If you talk about politics, you end up listening endlessly to their opinion. Yep, self-centred people can be damn annoying.
A friend of mine, Amelia, was going through a break up with her boyfriend of a couple of years ago, and she was feeling very down. Her friend, Leah, had also split up with her boyfriend and complained that Amelia was not calling her or reaching out to support her when her relationship ended. Even worse, Leah started trash talking Amelia to their mutual friends, complaining that she was selfish.
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Leah was incapable of realizing that Amelia had her own issues to deal with and she could only see the world according to her needs. Leah always put her own needs before anyone else’s. Amelia realized that she wanted to distance herself from this self-centred person who certainly wasn’t acting like a friend.
If you get tired of the person who sucks the energy out of the room, use one of our snappy comebacks below and give them a taste of reality.
Top ten comebacks for self centred people
- Can I share what I need to say without the constant interruptions?
- Listen carefully, It’s not always about you.
- Thanks for listening to my problems and making it all about you.
- Oh yes, ignore everything I just said, let’s make it all about you.
- You must be exhausted from talking about yourself all day.
- Funny, I just got back from the centre of the universe and I didn’t’ see you anywhere.
- My status is not about you. I do have other things going on in my life.
- Sorry you just found out the universe doesn’t revolve around you. Let me pour you a tall glass of get over it.
- Can I have a chance to talk about my life?
- Let’s hear from X, she hasn’t had a chance to share.
What is a self-centered person
A self-centred person is someone who is focused solely on their own needs and wants. In their hierarchy of priorities, they’re at the very top of the pyramid.
Yes, self-serving people have little empathy for anyone. They can’t even consider the feelings and perspective of others. Basically, their daily mantra is, “me, myself and I.” It’s always about their status, achievements and success — others will just have to wait.
How to deal with a self-centred person
How can you cope with someone who wants things only for themselves?
Well, if you want to know, scroll down and check out this list.
1. Set boundaries with self centred people
What boundaries are for is to keep you safe from energy-zapping situations. Something that a self-centered individual can create with their “I want this for myself” demands.
You can put some personal space, name your limits, and openly communicate them. They need to know when they’ve drawn the line.
2. Communicate effectively
Now, this one’s going to be a bit tricky because self-centered people are into one-sided conversations.
Despite that, you should still communicate your feelings to them. Chances are, they might not even know they’re affecting you. This is why you should speak to them constructively without any resentment.
3. Encourage bempathy
Encouraging a self-centered person to see the needs of others is one of the most positive things that you can do.
This will help them reflect and understand how their negative attitude is impacting others. From there, they can slowly build on being someone who shows empathy.
4. Don’t enable their behaviour
You should never tolerate someone who behaves badly. Sometimes, all they need is a person who can give them a wake up call.
So, we suggest not giving in to their demands. Rather, push them to take responsibility for their own actions.
5. Seek support
If you have a network of people you can rely on, you should not choose to handle things yourself. If they give you support, then you should take it. This will help decrease your stress and anxiety.
However, if your concerns are getting way serious, you should seek a therapist or a counselor to help you deal in a more effective way.
It’s easier to walk away from someone who has a big ego and is inconsiderate of others.
Alas, if you don’t want to throw away this relationship, you can heed on our advice.
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Famous people called out for being self-centred
Here are some famous celebs who are dubbed as “self-serving.”
1. Kanye West
Lately, everything seems chaotic in Kanye West’s life — from his divorce from Kim to his wayward public persona.
This has led many people to believe that the rapper-slash-producer’s troubled relationships are due to his egotistical behaviour.
2. Justin Bieber
The headline reads: Justin Bieber and his diva–like demands!
JB has been heavily criticized for being dismissive of others, on tours and during public outings. His single-mindedness on himself was also theorized by fans to be the reason why his previous relationships didn’t work out.
3. Kim Kardashian
Kim Kardashian is one of the most successful celeb-turned-entrepreneur success stories.
But apparently, there’s a twist in Kim’s incredible rise to the top.
Allegedly, her claim to success is built on her self-centeredness, always prioritizing her image and brand over anything else.
At times, we can’t help but question: Why are there people who act that way?
The thing is though, everyone has their own experiences that led them to act in a certain way. The same thing happens for these celebrities. Instead of worrying about what they say or do, you can choose to disentangle yourself from the negative behaviour altogether.
Create a better space for happiness and understanding — this world needs it more.
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When you are dealing with self centred people who make everything about them and you find it stressful, consider getting support from a professional. Talking to a counselor is a great way to work through a challenging situation, and help you find some strategies to work through the person’s behaviour.
Better Help is a great resource where you can talk to a counselor from the comfort of your own home.
Taking care of your own needs isn’t selfish, and you will feel better in the long run.
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