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What to say to someone who complains about their appearance

Check out what to say to someone who complains about the way they look

Do you know anybody who is always complaining about their appearance but they’re not willing to put in the work to look any better? It’s hard to have any sympathy when they go on about losing weight, and then pop another yummy chocolate biscuit into their mouth.

I always think you can’t complain about something unless you are willing to change. The definition of crazy is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. I would like to have stronger abs but I don’t mention it to anyone in case they give me a lecture that I should start doing sit-ups, truth be told I can’t be bothered. So I stick to paddle boarding and have average abs as a result.

Next time your friend is whinging about their looks, here are a few fun things you cansay with a smile.


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Top ten things to say to someone who complains about their body 

  1. You look really good for someone who eats horribly, doesn’t exercise and drinks too much.
  2. If I said You Had a Beautiful Body Would You Hold It Against me .
  3. You’re not going to get the butt you want by sitting on it.
  4. Mother Theresa didn’t walk around complaining about her thighs. She had shit to do.
  5. You’re eating habits would be much more justifiable if you were pregnant.
  6. According to your serving size you’re a family of four.
  7. One way to get a hot body is to get cremated.
  8. Running late to happy hour does not count as a work out.
  9. Instead of doing marathons on Netflix, go to the gym!
  10. You’re in a shape, round is a shape.
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When you are dealing with someone who complains about their appearance and you find it stressful, consider getting support from a professional. Talking to a counselor is a great way to work through a challenging situation, and help you find some strategies to work through the person’s behaviour.

Better Help is a great resource where you can talk to a counselor from the comfort of your own home.

Taking care of your own needs isn’t selfish, and you will feel better in the long run.

Got any comments, questions or tips for dealing with someone who complains about their appearance? Share them in the comments below.


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4 Responses

  1. take this one down. Your page is suppose to help people with what to say when someone is bullying them. But the “What to say to someone who complains about their appearance” is not acceptable. That person is pointing out their INSECURITIES.If someone stabs themselves you should take it out, not make it deeper. Especially since all of those sentences are supposed to be meant for fat people. Ya know, the people who uncomfortable in their own skin 24/7. The people who try to starve themselves because society is telling them they should. The people who hide their actions to attempt to look slimmer.Making them feel bad about themselves is not okay and who ever read that page will thing its ok since you titled it “What to say”. So instead of posting sentences that bring fat people down, post sentences that makes themselves good like “why give up being king sized to be fun sized? everyone likes king sized candy for halloween”. Im well aware you said to say those things with a smile but with a smile or not they bring people down and its not right

    1. Hi Jamyleth, this post wasn’t about being unkind to overweight people. It is about taking action over procrastination and trying to point out that someone needs to take action.

  2. Thanks, Bryn. In fact, I would like to see some comebacks for people who constantly make barbs about being elderly. Some even go so far as to throw that in the face of kids not yet old enough to drive; “You’ll be old and decrepit like me someday”. Being old does not mean being decrepit; they get that way because they’re too lazy to go for walks and crack open a book. Being elderly is supposed to make you more WISE.

  3. Hey, so uhm what do I do if someone is constantly pointing out your sexuality and how it’s “complicated”? I’m pansexual, or it’s also referred to as omnisexual. I would honestly love some tips.

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