How to respond when someone wants to know when you ended a friendship. |

Not all friendships are meant to last forever, at some point in your life, you may need to move on from a friend for various reasons.

When you have mutual friends or acquaintances they will ask what happened and why aren’t you friends with so and so anymore. If you go around badmouthing your old friend, you are the one who will look a jerk no matter what your friend did. Remember, the bad-mouther always looks like the bad guy.

The best way to end a friendship is distance yourself from the person with dignity. When they ask you to get together say you’re busy and cut back on contact. You want to be able to run into the person on the street and not feel awkward or uncomfortable, especially if you have mutual friends.

I always look at things from an energy point of view. I don’t want to expend a lot of energy tying up my thinking on a relationship that isn’t important to me. If things end badly, I will spend time worrying about it and stressing out. I have only so much time on the planet and I don’t want to give my attention to things that aren’t important to me.

Next time someone asks why you are no longer friends, here are a few good answers that let people know you have your reasons, but won’t give away too many details.


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Ten things you can say when someone asks why you ended a friendship

1. Some people should come with warning labels.

2. Life is too short for fake friends and crappy wine.

3. Cutting people out of my life does not mean I hate them, it just means I respect me.

4. I usually give someone more chances than they deserve but once I’m done I’m done.

5. When people show you who they are, believe them the first time.

6. Every time you subtract a negative from your life you make room for more positive.

7. You never know the quality of someone’s personality until the road gets rocky.

8. Sometimes when things aren’t adding up in your life you need to start subtracting.

9. If I cut someone off its because they handed me the scissors

10. You become like the five people you spend the most time with. I need to choose wisely.

When people ask why you ended a friendship.

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Not all friendships are meant to last forever

Not every single friendship you have is meant to to last forever. It is natural that folks grow apart as they change and evolve in different directions. It’s a fact of life of life that not every connection is meant to stand the test of time.

Although it can hurt when it is tie to move on from someone who is no longer positive or a good fit for you. Instead of focusing on the negatives, try to think of the good times that you had together.

If the person had a positive impact on your life, try to focus on what you learned and how you grew as a person because of the relationship. You are not getting rid of someone but making room for new beautiful relationships to come into your life.

Sometimes you need to move on from a friendship or relationship

Kelsey was devastated to find out her good friend was talking behind her back

Kelsey had always considered Sarah to be one of her closest friends. They had shared countless secrets, supported each other through tough times, and laughed together until their stomachs hurt.

Kelsey’s world came crashing down when she overheard a conversation between Sarah and her arch enemy, Jessica. To her shock and horror, Sarah was not only talking behind her back but also sharing personal secrets that Kelsey had confided in her. The betrayal cut deep, leaving Kelsey feeling devastated and utterly betrayed.

As the realization sank in, Kelsey grappled with a whirlwind of emotions. She felt hurt, angry, and deeply saddened by the breach of trust. The thought of someone she trusted so deeply betraying her was almost too much to bear. Kelsey struggled to comprehend how Sarah, whom she had considered a loyal and trustworthy friend, could stoop to such deceitful behavior.

Unable to contain her sadness, Kelsey confronted Sarah about what she had overheard. The conversation was tense, filled with anger, tears and accusations. Sarah tried to explain herself, offering feeble justifications for her actions, but Kelsey was not ready to forgive and forget so easily. The damage had been done, and the bond of their friendship had been irreparably shattered.

In the days that followed, Kelsey found herself grappling with a mix of emotions. She felt a profound sense of loss for the friendship she had cherished, and a deep sense of betrayal that gnawed at her heart.

Amidst the pain, Kelsey also found a glimmer of strength and resilience. She realized that she deserved better than a friend who would betray her trust so callously, and that she could emerge from this experience with a newfound understanding of the value of true friendship.

As time passed, Kelsey began to heal from the wounds of betrayal. She surrounded herself with better friends who uplifted and supported her, and gradually, the pain of Sarah’s betrayal began to fade. While the experience had left its mark, Kelsey emerged stronger and wiser, with a newfound appreciation for the true meaning of trust and loyalty in friendship.

When it is time to move on from a f

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  1. Thanks for these things to say to people. I never want to bad mouth anyone, but then I also want people to realize there is a reason we are not close anymore.

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