When someone says, “Why didn’t you tell me” they are letting you know that they believe you should be sharing a lot of personal information with them. Whether it’s your best friend or your boyfriend, not everything is meant to be shared. In a culture where people are overshare everything from what they had for breakfast on social media, you may face potential criticism if you keep a few things to yourself.
Being close with someone doesn’t mean you have to reveal every thought you have or everything you have done in your past. People have different levels of intimacy, maybe you or your partner likes to be a 100 percent transparent while you prefer to keep a few things to yourself.
By oversharing every thought and feeling you have you may cause hurt feelings unnecessarily. Feelings can be fleeting, maybe you have a crush on a coworker or you prefer hanging out with your new bestie at work more than your best friend outside the office. Tomorrow you may feel differently about the situation, there is no need to cause alarm by sharing every brain fart that you possess.
How much you reveal to friends and family also depends on your personality type. You may be introverted, while the people closest to you could be extroverts, how you engage with the world could be entirely different.
Here are a few fun comebacks you can have ready the next time your friend or the town gossip complains, “Why didn’t you tell me?” Go ahead and vote for the best answer.