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How to respond when someone wants to know why you didn’t tell them something

What to say when someone wants to know WHY YOU DIDN'T TELL THEM SOMETHING

When someone says, “Why didn’t you tell me” they are letting you know that they believe you should be sharing a lot of personal information with them.  Whether it’s your best friend or your boyfriend, not everything is meant to be shared. In a culture where people are overshare everything from what they had for breakfast on social media, you may face potential criticism if you keep a few things to yourself.

Being close with someone doesn’t mean you have to reveal every thought you have or everything you have done in your past. People have different levels of intimacy, maybe you or your partner likes to be a 100 percent transparent while you prefer to keep a few things to yourself.

By oversharing every thought and feeling you have you may cause hurt feelings unnecessarily. Feelings can be fleeting, maybe you have a crush on a coworker or you prefer hanging out with your new bestie at work more than your best friend outside the office. Tomorrow you may feel differently about the situation, there is no need to cause alarm by sharing every brain fart that you possess.


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How much you reveal to friends and family also depends on your personality type. You may be introverted, while the people closest to you could be extroverts, how you engage with the world could be entirely different.

Here are a few fun comebacks you can have ready the next time your friend or the town gossip complains, “Why didn’t you tell me?” Go ahead and vote for the best answer.

Vote for the best comeback when someone says why didn’t you tell me

My business isn't your business. Unless you're my thong, don't be up my ass.
Quick check your face, because I just found a nose in my business again.
The less you reveal, the more people can wonder.
Sometimes my greatest accomplishment is just keeping my mouth shut.

More snappy comebacks you might like

Got any comments, questions or tips for dealing with people who ask why you didn’t tell them something? Share them in the comments below.


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One Response

  1. I keep hearing this comment “why didn’t you tell me.” So today again I heard it and told this person “because I don’t have to tell you everything.” Not everything is meant to be shared with others when you don’t feel like revealing or you don’t want to ask for their opinion. There is a reason why you didn’t say anything to begin with. From other experiences, I think it’s a sense of feeling important that it’s expected of you to HAVE to tell them what’s going on. Nope!!


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