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How to respond when someone says you’ve changed

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When someone in your life complains that you’ve changed, they are usually mad that you aren’t doing what is convenient for them. Sometimes people use telling you that you’ve changed as a way to manipulate or control you.

If you are making positive changes in your life and evolving as a person, people close to you may not approve of the new fabulous you and complain about it. Don’t worry about the naysayers, you need to get on with it and do what’s best for you.

If you are tired of people making negative remarks, try one of our clever comebacks below.

Vote for the best comeback when someone says that you’ve changed

I did not change, you just never knew me.
I changed? Either that or I just stopped acting the way you wanted me to.
I am making some changes in my life right now. If you don’t hear from me, you’re one of them.
If you have a problem with me.. it is your problem.
Some people create their own storms and then get upset when it rains.

How to respond when you are told that you've changed

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Got any comments, questions or tips for dealing with people who tell you that you’ve changed? Share them in the comments below.


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7 Responses

    1. Hi Nhi,

      A few things you could say are:

      1))Sanity is highly over reated

      2)I’m not crazy, my reality is just different than yours.

      Good luck,


  1. What should I say when an anonymous person tells me to change my rude attitude and stop being so nosy. Which im not. The nosy part.

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