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What to say if people ask if you’re a virgin

Clever replies when people ASK IF YOU'RE A VIRGIN

Whether you’re a virgin or not it really is not anybody’s business but your own. Your friends or the new person who you are seeing may want to know, but you are no under no obligation to answer.

Being a virgin is nothing to be embarrassed about but you might not be ready to share your lack of a sex life with everyone you know. Talking about the intimate details of your sex life (or lack of) isn’t really first date conversation.

Some people are waiting for the right person and don’t want to give into peer pressure. Why on earth would you want to lose your virginity with the first idiot who comes along?

If you want to give an answer, that doesn’t give away too much information, try one of our comebacks below.

Vote for the best comeback when people want to know if you’re a virgin

That’s classified.
Tell me what you think the answer is after you've slept with me.
I may not be Fred Flintstone but I bet I can make your bed rock!
A long time ago, in a galaxy far, far away. In other words, I would really rather not say.
No one is a virgin life screws us all.


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Joe Jonas lost his virginity when he was 20

Joe Jonas lost virginity at 20

Joe Jonas shared with Vulture magazine when he lost his virginity.

“I did other stuff before then, but I was sexually active at 20. I’m glad I waited for the right person because you look back and you go, ‘That girl was batshit crazy. I’m glad I didn’t go there.’”

I don’t know why, but he seems to need to share the juicy details of his private life. He shared on the details on Reddit, at least he practices safe sex.

“I lost my virginity to this girl named Ashley. You can probably just Google it. It’s pretty easy to figure out. I dated a girl named Ashley, so just Google it to figure out which Ashley that is. It’s quite the great story because I didn’t have any condoms, so I went to our drummer, Jack’s room, who was my roommate at the time and I demolished his room looking for them. Found them underneath his underwear drawer. When he came home, he thought somebody broke into his room because his whole room was demolished because I was in dire need. Needed to happen then and now. Safety first, kids.”

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14 Responses

  1. I have one if you’re not looking to hook up but they are. “How about you F someone else? I’m sure they’ll be willing”

  2. There are worse things to be than a virgin. Hep b and Hiv + are two examples.
    If I (a virgin) had any reason to be unhappy about my condition, I could change it. How about you?

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