After your child turns one it seems like everywhere you turn you are asked, “Are you having a second child? When are you going to give your child a sibling?” It seems like everyone from your hairdresser to your second cousin once removed just won’t leave the topic of having a second child alone.
Why do so many people make such a big deal about having an only child, after all, It’s really not a crime to have a singleton? It is kind of a strange question to ask, considering 30 percent of families now only have one kid.
Some parents prefer having one for many different reasons, cost of living, being able to provide more opportunities for your child, travel and the logistics of a busy life. It’s also a little easier to maintain your sanity with one child.
Really, you shouldn’t have to explain your reasons why to anyone. If you want to let people know you are perfectly happy with your one child family, try a few of these fun responses and they won’t ask you again anytime soon.
10 Best comebacks when people ask if you are having a second child
1. No, we actually feel we got it right the first time.
2. I never planned the first one, what makes you think there is another one on the way?
3. If you are supposed to learn from your mistakes, why do some people have more than one child?
4. It is too dangerous when the children out number the parents. This factory is closed until further notice!
5. I’m just waiting until my first one is old enough to raise the next one!
6. No, children aren’t like potato chips, you can have just one.
7. Yes, we’re thinking of starting a ‘one and done’ club!
8. We plan to give all our love and attention to this one lucky kid.
9. We’re going for quality of quantity when it comes to parenting.
10. We feel blessed enough with just one.
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Jodi was tired of the ‘aren’t you having a second child’ question
Jodi was exhausted from the constant inquiries about when she and her partner were going to have a second child. It seemed like everyone, from well-meaning relatives to curious acquaintances, felt entitled to ask about their family planning decisions. Jodi found herself conjuring up humorous responses to deflect the question, but deep down, it weighed heavily on her.
She and her partner had their reasons for focusing on raising their first child and felt frustrated by the societal pressure to conform to the expectation of expanding their family. Jodi longed for understanding and empathy rather than unsolicited advice and probing questions.
Despite the persistent inquiries, Jodi remained steadfast in her decision and sought solace in the unwavering support of close friends and family who respected her choices. She realized that her family’s happiness and well-being were paramount, and she refused to let external pressures dictate their path.
Over time, Jodi found her voice and began gently but firmly asserting her boundaries when faced with the intrusive question. She discovered that by setting clear boundaries and redirecting the conversation, she could reclaim her sense of autonomy and peace of mind.
As Jodi navigated this challenging terrain, she also found solidarity in connecting with other parents who had experienced similar pressures. Together, they shared stories, offered support, and found strength in embracing their unique family dynamics.
Through it all, Jodi remained resolute in her decision, finding comfort in the love and joy her family of three brought her. She realized that the number of children in a family did not define its happiness and that her worth as a parent was not contingent on conforming to societal expectations.
The Role of counselling and self care
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Taking care of your own needs isn’t selfish, and you will feel better in the long run.