When the person you are seeing says that they will die if you don’t have sex with them, it may leave your head spinning. Relationships are complicated, and things can move fast within the blink of an eye. Soon, you’ve gone from long walks in the park to him/her wanting to take things to the next level. If you find yourself in the situation where your partner is pestering you for sex, you should know that you aren’t obligated to do anything you aren’t confortable with.
You may feel like you have to do what they want just because you’re in a relationship with them, but that’s not the case. The pressure in a relationship to please the other individual can feel very real, but if you feel like you are just not ready or any other circumstance that is giving you doubts, you are always welcome to say no.
As well, you shouldn’t feel bad or guilty for wanting to decline. If you’re afraid to see how your partner reacts, then you should know that you aren’t responsible for how someone else is feeling. It’s not your job to make someone else happy, and however they choose to respond.
To add on, it’s not a bad thing to be scared of having sex. It does come with serious responsibility and can have serious repercussions. Take Jamie Lyn Spears for example. At the age of 16, she learned she was pregnant, and her world was thrown out of proportion. Even at such a young age, she was forced to grow up so fast, and while her life now is back on track, we can’t imagine how hard it must of been for her to deal with the news.
Sex isn’t always bad, but if you feel like you aren’t ready or are feeling pressured to do so, don’t. If you ever find yourself in a situation where someone is asking you to have sex with them, try using one of our comebacks below