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Top Ten Comebacks for Complainers

What to say to someone who won't stop complaining

Do you know someone who always has something to complain about? They go on about the morons they have to work with or their crazy family. Of course, they are never accountable for being a part of the problem. Hell, no, it’s everyone else’s fault!

I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to hear it. I just don’t care. If someone wants to wallow in their misery, they can do it on their own.

Pippa was a kind person who always invited people without family over for the holidays. One of the people she invited was Aunt Bertha, who didn’t have a husband or children of her own. Since her mother passed, Pippa felt obligated to include Bertha in family holidays at her home. Bertha was an extremely negative person. She would complain about everyone and everything. Her tagline was, “I am so angry!” and usually followed up by some comment about the government or another relative who wasn’t acting the way Bertha thought they should behave.

One Thanksgiving, Pippa had a bunch of friends over from Brazil, and the mood was light and joyful. The guests were having fun and laughing. Well, they were until her aunt arrived. As soon as Bertha walked in, she started complaining, “The drive across town was terrible. There was so much traffic.” She followed those up with more complaints: the people at the grocery store, the annoying people in Bertha’s apartment building, and the government taxing her too much.

Every time someone started a conversation Bertha shifted the mood in the room. It was as if a dark cloud was now hanging over the party. It was as if Bertha’s complaining sucked all the joy out of the Thanksgiving celebration.

Here are some snappy comebacks that will let the complainer know they need to take their complaints elsewhere.

What to say to someone who constantly complains

  1. Stop complaining. Everyone who died yesterday thinks you’re one lucky guy.
  2. If you’re not helping to make it right, then stop complaining about it being wrong.
  3. Don’t complain about things you are not willing to change.
  4. I think some people enjoy complaining almost as much as they enjoy doing nothing about it.
  5. Complaining never makes anything better.
  6. I’m sorry that I suck at empathizing with your first world problems.
  7. Spending today complaining about yesterday won’t make tomorrow any better.
  8. You should realize that complaining about your first world problem is a first world problem.
  9. I genuinely care about whatever you have been complaining about for the last hour.
  10. You’re the stereotype of someone always complaining about stereotypes.

Kanye West loves to complain

Kanye West by David Shankbone, Wikipedia

When Taylor Swift accepted her MTV award for Best Female Video in 2009, Kanye charged onto the stage, grabbed the microphone, and made one big public complaint.

I’m sorry, but Beyoncé had one of the best videos of all time! – Kanye West

Taylor, who was only a teen at the time, won the award for You Belong With Me. Talk about robbing someone of their big moment.

West loves to complain at awards shows and let people know that he’s pissed! In 2004, he walked out of the American Music Awards after losing the Best new artist of the year complaining, “I was the best new artist this year!”

Kanye has more temper tantrums than a toddler.


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8 Responses

  1. This is a good one.
    We’re sorry, your request for victim status has been denied. You are being referred to the big girl panties department.

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