What to say to someone who won't stop complaining

Do you know someone who always has something to complain about? They go on about the morons they have to work with or their crazy family. Of course, they are never accountable for being a part of the problem. Hell, no, it’s everyone else’s fault!

I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to hear it. I just don’t care. If someone wants to wallow in their misery, they can do it on their own.

Pippa was a kind person who always invited people without family over for the holidays. One of the people she invited was Aunt Bertha, who didn’t have a husband or children of her own. Since her mother passed, Pippa felt obligated to include Bertha in family holidays at her home. Bertha was an extremely negative person. She would complain about everyone and everything. Her tagline was, “I am so angry!” and usually followed up by some comment about the government or another relative who wasn’t acting the way Bertha thought they should behave.

One Thanksgiving, Pippa had a bunch of friends over from Brazil, and the mood was light and joyful. The guests were having fun and laughing. Well, they were until her aunt arrived. As soon as Bertha walked in, she started complaining, “The drive across town was terrible. There was so much traffic.” She followed those up with more complaints: the people at the grocery store, the annoying people in Bertha’s apartment building, and the government taxing her too much.

Every time someone started a conversation Bertha shifted the mood in the room. It was as if a dark cloud was now hanging over the party. It was as if Bertha’s complaining sucked all the joy out of the Thanksgiving celebration.

Here are some snappy comebacks that will let the complainer know they need to take their complaints elsewhere.


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What to say to someone who constantly complains

1. Stop complaining. Everyone who died yesterday thinks you’re one lucky guy.

2. If you’re not helping to make it right, then stop complaining about it being wrong.

3. Don’t complain about things you are not willing to change.

4. I think some people enjoy complaining almost as much as they enjoy doing nothing about it.

5. Complaining never makes anything better.

6. I’m sorry that I suck at empathizing with your first world problems.

7. Spending today complaining about yesterday won’t make tomorrow any better.

8. You should realize that complaining about your first world problem is a first world problem.

9. I genuinely care about whatever you have been complaining about for the last hour.

10. You’re the stereotype of someone always complaining about stereotypes.

What is a complainer?

A complainer is a person who constantly expresses their dissatisfaction or unhappiness about a situation or circumstance. Complainers have a tendency to zero in on the negative aspects of any situation and may express their complaints to others publicly.

For some folks, complaining is habit and a way of being in the world, and they may find themselves complaining about minor things or things that are beyond their control.

All of us feel frustrated by our circumstances at times, but people continually complaining can be exhausting mentally and emotionally to be around. Some people are so focused on all of the negative that they can’t see anything positive, even if it is right in front of them.

Dealing with a complainer

Dealing with a complainer can be unbelievably frustrating, but here are some tips that may help:

1. Offer up solutions – Instead of just agreeing with the complaints, offer suggestions to solve the issue.

2. Set personal boundaries – While it’s important to acknowledge someone’s feelings, it’s also important to respect your own personal boundaries. Set a limit of how long you will listen to a complainer

3. Reframe the conversation – Change the topic of conversation to something else.

4. Encourage gratitude – Encourage the person to focus on the positive aspects of their life and practice gratitude. This can help shift their thinking from one of negativity to one of positivity.

5. Remove yourself from the situation – Dealing with a complainer is exhausting, so you have a right to put yourself first and leave a continually negative situation that is affecting you negatively.

Remember, you can’t change someone else’s behavior, but you can control your own reactions. Try to approach the situation with empathy and a positive attitude, but don’t be afraid to set boundaries if necessary.

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Kanye West loves to complain

Kanye West by David Shankbone, Wikipedia

When Taylor Swift accepted her MTV award for Best Female Video in 2009, Kanye charged onto the stage, grabbed the microphone, and made one big public complaint.

I’m sorry, but Beyoncé had one of the best videos of all time! – Kanye West

Taylor, who was only a teen at the time, won the award for You Belong With Me. Talk about robbing someone of their big moment.

West loves to complain at awards shows and let people know that he’s pissed! In 2004, he walked out of the American Music Awards after losing the Best new artist of the year complaining, “I was the best new artist this year!”

Kanye has more temper tantrums than a toddler.

Famous people who are known for complaining

A few famous people who are known for complaining:

1. Morrissey – The former lead singer of The Smiths is known for complaining about British politics , and even his own music fans.

2. Gwyneth Paltrow – The actress and entrepreneur has been criticized for her tendency to complain about things like her diet, motherhood, and the challenges of running a business.

3. Shia LaBeouf – The actor has been known to complain about everything from his co-workers to the quality of his movies.

4. Mariah Carey – The music celebrity is known for her unrealistic standards and habbit of complaining about everything and tormenting her staff.

It’s worth noting that these are just a few examples and that everyone complains from time to time. It’s important to remember that famous people, like everyone else, are human and have their own struggles and challenges.

The Role of counselling and self care

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When you are dealing with someone who keeps complaining and you find it stressful, consider getting support from a professional. Talking to a counselor is a great way to work through a challenging situation, and help you find some strategies to work through the person’s behaviour.

Better Help is a great resource where you can talk to a counselor from the comfort of your own home.

Taking care of your own needs isn’t selfish, and you will feel better in the long run.

Got any comments, questions or tips for dealing with someone who constantly complains? Share them in the comments below.

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  1. This is a good one.
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