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What to say to someone who keeps bringing up your past

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Have you ever had a friend or a boyfriend keep bringing up your past or mistakes that you made years ago? Most of us have embarrassing moments or chapters of our lives that we’re not particularly proud of. Maybe it is that time you danced on a table in a nightclub or made a complete fool of yourself in high school.

The last thing we need is someone publicly broadcasting or going on about our worst possible moments. After all, you are not your past, everyone is constantly changing and evolving as a person. You are probably not the same person you were five years ago.

You can’t help but wonder what is someone’s motivation for continually mentioning your past? Sometimes it’s best to ignore what someone said and other times people can be so continually disrespectful you have to call the person out on their behaviour.

Here are some things you can have ready on the tip of your tongue, next time they bring up negative or embarrassing stories about you from long ago.


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What to say to someone who keeps bringing up your past

  1. I don’t look back; I’m not going that way.
  2. If you judge me by my past don’t be surprised when you become part of it.
  3. You’re like a plunger, you keep bringing up old shit.
  4. You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep rereading the last one.
  5. The past is a place of reference, not a residence.
  6. I am not the same person I was a month ago, a day ago or a year ago. Life is always changing.
  7. I don’t regret my past, I just regret the time I wasted with the wrong people.
  8. Sometimes people with the worst pasts end up creating the best futures.
  9. It doesn’t matter who I used to be. All that matters is who I have become.
  10. If you’re looking for the old me check the morgue.
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23 Responses

    1. Amen Wallace…It’s so sad when people look at you and all they think about is their past Divorce your past and marry your future because your future looks better then your past.

      1. Your comment reminds me of a Paulo Coelho quote. Don’t worry about the people from your past, there is a reason they aren’t in your future.

      2. Hi my name is mrs jessica and my husband keep bringing up the past from which i was being botherd on a job that i had from a male i thought i could handle the problem by telling my supervisior to tell the male to leave me alone was very scared to tell my husband he is a very jealous man he would have thought that i was liken this male and i wasnt and this happen like three years ago and he still brings it up

    2. My friends say I was the weakest in the class I said why u bringing up old shit the only old shit I see is your damn girlfriend who left u

  1. 1)Try this one. I found it here on the website: “I’m sorry I can’t hear you. I’ve got my moron filter on”. 2) If they imply that you’re unattractive then say: “I guess that means I’m still out of your league”. 3) Tell them to give their opinions in writing next time so that you can use it as toilet paper

  2. I had a toxic friend that I don’t talk to anymore she would call my now fiance and tries to bring up past issues and mentions someone I used to flirt with back in the day thinking that this way he’d look down on me..lol b*tch doesn’t know that he totally ignores her blabbering and tells me all details even her messages he shows me screen shots and now we completely cut her off.

  3. Yes I agree with this I hate when people bring up my past or tell other people my past is embarrassing and the person who keeps bringing it up is like a popular/mean person.

    1. Everyone has some stuff in thier life that they would not consider ghier proudestb moments, just consider, that people who hide thier own dirty laundry while waving yours about Most likely have real skeletons in thier closet. Stuff thier too ashamed to repeat. Unlike yours that can’t be that terrible, otherwise you wouldn’t be ready to eated it right??

  4. Hi, the best put down to toxic people(s) who bring up your past is ‘I forgot all about that’. This is because the toxic person really wants you to be feeling bad and hopes this will trigger anger in yourself. Stay away from anyone who acts like this, they do not respect you if they do this. They want you to feel as bad as they do in life. Be happy and grateful you are not like these people. Smile and move on to more positive people who will smother you with love and respect. Be Happy Good People…

    1. Agree… I tried saying “I forgot all about it,” to someone toxic and she countered, “you are mentally unstable!” And continue to rant unreasonably on and on and threatened to hot me.

      I just kept quiet and move away when I could. No thanks to having such people in my life.

  5. there is a boy in my class (seventh grade) that keeps bugging me about a game i don’t even play! he has also told almost all the other boys on my team. i didn’t tell my mom, or anybody cause i thought i could handle it, because he is doing it to my best friend too. she tells me to just ignore them, but i can’t! he got me to the point that i went to the bathroom and cried during seventh period. but, these comebacks really helped me. although, we can all use the classic shut your stupid face 🙂

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