Have you ever been around someone who keeps putting you and others down and making snide comments? The critic sees fault everywhere they look, yet they fail to see their own limitations. A truly happy, confident person doesn’t feel the need to make everyone around them feel like crap. The problem isn’t with you. It’s with the toxic person who tries to act superior but truly feels inferior underneath it all.
I had a job once working for a crazy person She would boost one person up telling them that they were wonderful, and she would pick another person to simultaneously terrorize. Janice, my mean-spirited boss, would freak out about minor things and badmouth other staff members, all while wasting tons of company money.
One outstanding staff member went way beyond the call of duty and did a great job for her. When she left the company, Janice gave her the worst reference I have ever heard, full of personal insults and put-downs.
Well, there is justice in this world because Janice was fired, and her sorry ass was removed from the company. They finally figured out why there was so much staff turnover when the CEO brought in a friend to work for him and he shared what had been going on. Being condescending and putting others down didn’t end well for Janice. Karma turned around and kicked her in the ass.
If you get tired of someone putting you down and bringing you down, here are some clever comebacks to let them know they need to back off.
Great comebacks when someone puts you down
1. I don’t understand people who hate their lives enough to criticize everyone around…but not enough to fix their own.
2. You only feel like extinguishing my fire because you are unable to light a match and start your own.
3. Some people will always have something to say and nothing to contribute.
4. Why don’t you try and fix yourself instead of trying to break me?
5. Just because you’ve chosen a label for me doesn’t mean I’ve chosen to wear it.
6. You know, all the makeup and the clothes can’t change what an ugly person you really are!
7. Happy, secure people have no need to put others down.
8. Know what’s funny? Not you, so shut up!
9. Please cancel my subscription; I have had enough of your issues.
10. Bitch, please you’ve got more issues than Vogue.
Definition of a put down
A put down is a negative remark or critical behaviour towards someone with a clear motive of making them feel less than. Verbal or non-verbal, intentional or not, a put down results to emotional and mental damage, creating an uncomfortable environment.
Dealing with a person who puts you down
Nobody likes to be chummy-chummy with the person who continuously rains on your parade.
But if you can’t get them to stop, maybe you can use these tips as your umbrella from the tumultuous “put-down” shower.
1. Set boundaries with people who put others down
You have to be precise about what you can and can’t tolerate. That’s what setting boundaries is for, to establish where your limits are.
And along with that invisible fence is openly communicating to the person who puts you down. Let them be aware of their bad behaviour and be clear about where that space ends.
2. Communicate effectively
Ever heard the saying, “clear is kind, unclear is kind?
If you are precise about your feelings and needs, there’s a great chance your boundaries will be respected. You can do so by communicating effectively. Express your side of things but also see from their point of view. This is how you’re going to settle the issue.
3. Don’t take it personally
A person who puts down others will say whatever they can to steal your thunder. Besides, people who tend to put others down have insecurities and issues they love to reflect on others.
Knowing all these, why should you take whatever they say personally?
4. Surround yourself with positivity
You need to counter bad energy with good energy.
If you’re getting so much toxicity from having to deal with a put-down, you can harbor positive energy from friends and family. They’ll bring sunshine into your doom and gloom.
5. Seek professional help
Constantly hearing negative remarks all the time is bad for your mental health. At some point, it will eventually get into your head. That moment when it does, it can lead to anxiety and depression.
If that happens, it’s good to have a professional support system to help you cope with the situation.
The point of these tips is to help you get over negative comments and bad behaviour. Dealing with a negative person more positively without compromising your happiness and well-being is the best way to go.
Just remember to never respond to negativity. The more you’re away from it, the happier your life will become.
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The Role of counselling and self care
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When you are dealing with someone who puts you down and you find it stressful, consider getting support from a professional. Talking to a counselor is a great way to work through a challenging situation, and help you find some strategies to work through the person’s behaviour.
Better Help is a great resource where you can talk to a counselor from the comfort of your own home.
Taking care of your own needs isn’t selfish, and you will feel better in the long run.