Ten things to say to your teenager

When you have a teenager in the house there are a lot of things you want them to pass on to them so they can avoid many common pitfalls. Unfortunately, a lot of times teens are not interested in listening, but you can throw out a few words of wisdom now and again and maybe something will stick.

With my own kids, I really want them to take challenges and not be held back by the limits of their own mind or their own peer group. There is a big world out there to go and explore and if they want something they need to take action to make it happen, and not sit around waiting for permission.

In life, if you get the big things right the smaller parts can fall into place. It is important to get the strategy right otherwise you could experience years of frustration. Kids today have so many amazing opportunities to travel, create an online business or follow the traditional route of a university.


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Life doesn’t always work out according to your plan, sometimes your plan A will blow up and you will need to have a plan B or C ready and pivot.

These are things I wish I had known sooner rather than later. Follow these 10 tips and your future is golden.

Ten things to say to your teenager to develop a positive mindset

1. Discipline is choosing between what you want now and what you want most.

2. You become like the five people you spend the most time with. Choose carefully.

3. All great achievements require time.

4. The only limits that exist are the ones in your own mind.

5. Ask yourself, will this matter a year from now?

6. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.

7. Your life is your message to the world. Make sure it’s inspiring.

8. In school you are taught a lesson and then given a test. In life, you’re given a test that teaches you a lesson.

9. Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you.

10. Don’t expect to see a change if you don’t make one.

When you want to raise an independent teenager

Kim said positive things to her son Rafi so he would develop a positive mindset

Kim believed in the power of positive thinking and its impact on her son Rafi’s mindset. Every day, she made a conscious effort to say positive things to him, knowing that her words would shape his outlook on life.

“Rafi, you are capable of achieving great things,” she would say, instilling confidence in her son. “You have a kind heart and a sharp mind. You can overcome any challenge that comes your way.”

Her words of encouragement became a daily routine, and over time, Rafi’s mindset began to shift. He started to believe in himself and his abilities, approaching each day with a positive attitude.

As Rafi grew older, he carried his mother’s words with him, using them as motivation to pursue his dreams. Kim’s unwavering support and positive affirmations had laid the foundation for Rafi’s success. He embraced challenges with determination and faced setbacks with resilience, all because his mother had planted the seeds of positivity in his mind.

Years later, Rafi achieved his goals and credited his positive mindset to his mother’s unwavering belief in him. Kim’s simple yet powerful words had made a lasting impact, shaping Rafi into the confident and optimistic person he had become.

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Taking care of your own needs isn’t selfish, and you will feel better in the long run.


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  1. I have a few comebacks “were you born on the highway cause that’s were most accidents happen”

    “I was going to give you a nasty look but I see you already have one”

    “I hope one day you will cholk on all that shit you talk”
    “Hey nice teeth do you have them in white”

    “He/she called me a looser, so I called he/she an ambulance”

    “Text me back when your internet is better”

  2. I always tell my daughter that happiness is an inside job, don’t give someone that much power over your life I don’t know if is she takes it in and gets it, but I hope she does.

  3. I don’t think #5 is the best for when someone is trying to find happiness. “Ask yourself: will this matter a year form now?”
    no offense but here’s why:

    No, it might not matter a year from now but personally, I’d rather be happy during that year, rather than waiting. You know? That might not make sense.

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