What to say when a friend hooks up with an EX

When a friend tells you that they have been hooking up with an EX it can be a little surprising, especially if you had to listen to them complaining about the relationship during the break-up.

After a break up it is easy to fall into an emotional rut when you’re lonely and forced to step out and date again. When people are lonely, they may seek solace in their ex-partner.

What someone else does is really none of your business, unless you have to listen to endless suffering on the phone of why things didn’t work out.

Well, sometimes the best thing to say is nothing at all, but if can’t help yourself here are some clever responses to let them know it isn’t a wise choice to hook up with an Ex.

Top ten things to say to someone hooking up with their EX

1. Sleeping with an ex is like masturbation. You know you’re screwing yourself but you do it anyway.

2. Just because someone desires you, doesn’t mean they value you.

3. Hooking up your ex again is like buying your clothes back from goodwill. There’s a reason you got rid of them in the first place.

4. Some people come into your life as blessing as others come as life lessons.

5. Getting back with your ex is like taking a shower, going out, and putting back on the same old dirty underwear.

6. Never allow loneliness to drive you back in the arms of someone you don’t belong with.

7. People learn how to treat you based on what you accept from them.

8. People miss you more when they see how happy you are without them.

9. Just because you miss someone doesn’t mean they belong in your life

10. If someone won’t lift a finger to call or spend time with you, it’s time for you to lift five fingers and wave good bye.


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Why do people hook up with their Ex partner?

Every person’s has their own personal reasons why they hook up with their ex. It may not make sense or be clear to friends and family around them. Here are a few reasons:

Easy and familiar: Being with your x is much easier than going out and meeting someone new. You know what you are going to get and what to expect from the situation. Being with an ex means that you don’t have to get out of your comfort zone.

Still emotionally attached: Just because the relationship ended doesn’t mean that a person’s feeling just automatically turn off. There must have been something you liked about the person to begin with, and the feelings may still be there.

Convenience: Your ex partner may still be on your speed dial and it is easy and convenient for a booty call.

Conflicting emotions: Even though you broke up for a reason, you still could have unresolved feelings for your ex. In a perfect world, things may have worked out between the two of you.

Hooking up with an ex can be complicated and messy. You may find yourself revisiting the emotional trauma of your original breakup. Think long and hard about hooking up with past partner to see if it is really in your best interests.

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Niki kept hooking up with her ex even though he was bad news

Niki couldn’t seem to break free from the toxic cycle she had found herself in with her ex-boyfriend, Jake. Despite knowing that he was bad news, she kept hooking up with him, unable to resist the pull of their tumultuous history. Their relationship had always been filled with drama and heartache, yet Niki found herself drawn back to him time and time again, unable to break free from the hold he had on her.

Each time Niki and Jake rekindled their physical relationship, she told herself it was just a temporary escape from the loneliness and longing she felt. She convinced herself that their passionate encounters were separate from the emotional turmoil he had caused her in the past.

Deep down, Niki knew that she was only prolonging her own pain by continuing to engage with someone who brought nothing but chaos into her life. As the cycle repeated itself, Niki’s friends grew increasingly concerned for her well-being.

Friends could see the toll that Jake’s presence was taking on her, and they urged her to cut ties with him for good. Despite their warnings and support, Niki found herself unable to shake off the pull of her toxic connection with Jake. She grappled with feelings of shame and self-doubt, unsure of how to break free from the destructive pattern that had consumed her.

It wasn’t until Niki found herself in a moment of clarity, reflecting on the toll that her relationship with Jake had taken on her mental and emotional well-being, that she realized she needed to make a change. She recognized that she deserved better than the tumultuous rollercoaster that Jake had put her through, and that she needed to prioritize her own happiness and self-worth.

With newfound determination, Niki made the difficult decision to sever ties with Jake once and for all. It wasn’t easy, and she faced moments of doubt and longing for the familiarity of their past relationship, but she knew that it was the right choice for her own peace of mind. Slowly but surely, Niki began to rebuild her life, embracing the freedom and empowerment that came with breaking free from the toxic hold of her ex. In time, she found herself opening up to new possibilities and experiences, free from the weight of a relationship that had only brought her pain.

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