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Top ten comebacks for people talking behind your back

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We’ve all had that terrible feeling of being shocked when you find out that somebody we consider a friend has been talking about us behind our back. If you have had a friend share your confidential information with others, STOP sharing your secrets with them immediately.

Candace was shocked to find out that her close friend had been complaining about her to others. She had been friends with Maria since elementary school, and she knew that she gossiped about people. However, she didn’t think she would gossip about one of her best friends.

Candace didn’t believe that Maria had betrayed her at first until another close friend showed her the text of what she had been saying. Maria also shared with a mutual friend that Candace was considering ending her relationship with her boyfriend, and she was worried the entire school would find out. She felt depressed and stressed out.

Here is a list of top ten comebacks you can use to let the person who talks behind your back know if they have something to say and they should say it to your face.


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Top ten sarcastic comebacks for people who talk behind your back

  1. My back is not a voicemail, say it to my face.
  2. I don’t worry about those who talk behind my back. They are behind me for a reason.
  3. If you have a problem with me, call me. If you don’t have my number you don’t know me well enough to have a problem.
  4. If you are talking behind my back clearly my life is more interesting than yours.
  5. If you have a problem with me, don’t talk to me. Problem solved.
  6. There is only one thing in life worse than being talked about, and that’s not being talked about.
  7. If you are talking behind my back clearly my life is more interesting than yours.
  8. I pay no mind to those who talk behind your back, it just means I’m two steps ahead.
  9. It doesn’t bother me that you talk about me behind my back. What pisses me off is you don’t get all the facts right!
  10. I’d rather have an enemy that slaps me in the face than a fake friend who stabs me in the back.
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16 Responses

  1. Hey, my ex best friend is now talking crap behind my back and I was told by my mom to report it to the Vice Principal (again). If it comes up again what should I say to her?

    1. Hi Lori,

      If she is constantly bad mouthing you I think you need to report it. Hopefully she will get the message and move on and leave you alone.

      Good luck,


  2. “I don’t really give a sh*t if you don’t like me. But if you’re gonna act like we’re cool when I’m around, you better act like we’re cool when I’m not around.”

    1. I don’t mind if you don’t like me. But it’s better when you act cool about me when I’m not around than when I am around. This is more cool to say.

  3. At school IDK if people are actually talking behind my back until one of my siblings tell me and it really hurts, I have been bullied by different and same things since 3rd grade, I am not joking, I lost my best friend in 3rd grade and I have been friendless ever since, people are still bullying me today, I hate it, I need more comebacks. Thanks

    1. Well people are stupid to be bullying you and clearly they have no life and are just jealouse of you because you actually have a life and they don’t and i have the same problem so tell the haters to eat a foot ‘not literally’

  4. There is a girl in my class who is passive-aggressive, how do i tell her that I don’t want to do something or that I want to do something differently, when she coerces me, especially in front of teachers.

  5. I have a friend of mine which is talking behind my back with another friend which tells me everything she says but the one that talks bad acts like everything is fine and will deny ever saying anything and also she’s in my group of friends

    1. The same thing is happening to me too! I have a friend of my “friend” that has told me some things that my fake friend has been saying about me behind my back and I confronted her about it and she denied everything. Today I found out that she had said that I am annoying as hell and that I am desperate for love. So desperate that I am trying to date my best friend that is a girl… That is not true. The part of me being with my best friend that I want to be with her is true. I love my best friend for that and my fake friend is saying horrible things that I’m desperate even though she likes all of these different boys and then she calls me desperate. That is so messed up right???? Ughhh what the help do I do? Should I confront her about it or should I just leave it and let her talk shit about me behind my back even more??? ?

  6. I had the same problem earlier today. Something I would say would be: I didn’t know reverse evolution was possible for a human being, but you proved cause you certainly can’t act your age

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