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Top Ten Comebacks for Controlling People

How to respond to someone who is being CONTROLLING

People who try to control your every move do so because they are insecure. You may be with a controlling person if they constantly criticize everything you do, isolate you from your friends and family, and try to change you while squashing your self-confidence and self-esteem.

I knew a flight attendant whose boyfriend, Dazza, would call her twenty times a day wanting to know her every move. Isabelle had to call him before going out because he wanted to know where she was going. If she didn’t tell him beforehand, he would get very angry. After a couple of years of his controlling behaviour, she received a phone call from another woman, who said that she thought they had the same boyfriend.

Isabelle didn’t think it could be true. She went to the woman’s house, and there was a picture, taken on vacation, of her boyfriend and this woman cuddled up. There were messages from him on her answering machine saying how much he loved her.


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The crazy thing is Dazza was just as controlling with his second girlfriend as he was with Isabelle.

Here are some snappy comebacks to let the controlling person know that you are not interested in being controlled or told what to do.

What to say to a controlling person

  1. If I was meant to be controlled I’d come with a remote.
  2. If you want to control everything, start with controlling your urge to speak.
  3. There is nothing wrong with being a control freak if you’re controlling your own words, behaviour and attitude.
  4. I find it incredibly unattractive when you use emotional manipulation to get your way.
  5. I don’t allow other people to control the direction of my life.
  6. I find it curious how people who have no self-control and respect for your feelings are the same people who demand self-control for you.
  7. Everyone has a right to an opinion, and I have a right not to listen to it.
  8. Go find someone else to control because you are not controlling me.
  9. People often forget that it is your own choice of how you want to spend the rest of your life.
  10. You. Cut out that egocentric control BS now.

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  1. The one that i only used was the first one, i worked , my friend run somewhere and cried when i said that LOLOLLOL

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