We all know a toxic person; it could be your relative or some idiot in your class who always likes to point out the negative.
Jason was a top student at school and was a bright guy. His grandfather loved him and meant well, but he had a very small view of the world.
Jason was in the process of making plans to go to university overseas. He wanted to travel and experience all that life had to offer. His grandpa could only see the world from his point of view and would make negative remarks every time Jason shared one of his dreams. Grandpa would say things like, “You will never be able to survive in Dublin if you go there by yourself.”
Luckily, Jason didn’t listen to his grandpa and kept going and planning for his move to Europe. What we believe we are capable of achieving truly determines our lives. Don’t let the negative remarks from limited people become your reality.
“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t–you’re right.”— Henry Ford
Here are some great comebacks for the individual who is always giving you unsolicited advice and making negative remarks. These clever comebacks will let them know that you know you are not interested in hearing their nasty comments.
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Top ten comebacks for people who make negative comments
- Your comments about X are not acceptable.
- Happy, secure people have no need to put others down.
- Some people will always have something to say and nothing to contribute.
- I don’t take feedback from people who don’t have to deal with the results.
- Why don’t you try and fix yourself instead of trying to break me?
- Just because you’ve chosen a label for me doesn’t mean I’ve chosen to wear it.
- Know what’s funny? Not you, so be quiet.
- Please cancel my subscription; I have had enough of your issues.
- Please, you’ve got more issues than Vogue.
- I don’t understand people who hate their lives enough to criticize everyone around…but not enough to fix their own.
Definition of a person who makes negative comments
A person who makes negative comments is someone who is very critical and leaves disparaging remarks on others, situations, and things.
If you look at it closely, you can tell that these people have pessimistic views on everything. How else could you explain their non-stop negative talk?
Since they’re thorns in the roses, they are very much capable of conjuring a toxic environment. So, expect to never live a positive life when you’re hanging around them.
Dealing with a person who makes negative comments
How can you put some colors back in your space after being around a negative person?
We have the answers below that may help your case.
1. Set boundaries with a person who makes negative comments
Fighting the doom and gloom sucks the light out of you, so you must create some boundaries.
Set your limits and openly communicate them to the person who makes the negative comments. Let them know that their behavior is not acceptable and the consequences associated with it.
2. Communicate effectively
It is important to speak out and stand up for yourself. If there’s something that upsets you, talk about it in a constructive way.
Sometimes, situations just escalate because there’s zero communication. Maybe, by talking, you both can come up with something to solve the issue.
3. Don’t engage in arguments
Yes, arguing can be beneficial. But, in this case, confronting a person that is perhaps aggressive is not a good move.
The best thing that you can do is avoid fighting with the person leaving negative comments in your wake. That’s exactly what they want you to do.
4. Encourage positive behaviour
If they don’t have a bit of positivity in them, maybe you can help fill it up. You can do this by encouraging positive behavior and giving them a pat on the back for scoring one.
If they leave good comments, praise them for it. Recognizing someone
for their good action is actually prompting them to repeat the behavior.
5. Seek help
Having a support system aids your stress. It goes two ways; You have someone to vent to about the person who makes negative comments. And then, you have someone to spend time with to increase your mood.
A strong support system can decompress a long stressful day.
People can either inspire you or drain you. The person who makes negative comments about you is obviously the latter.
Dealing with them can be particularly challenging, especially if they’re within your circle. You may be forced to put up with such behavior.
The thing is though, you also have to put yourself first. If it’s necessary to get them out of your life, then you should do it.
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Famous people called out for making negative comments
These following famous people have been called out for speaking their minds negatively without a second thought. And oh boy, did they pay a handsome price for it.
1. Roseanne Barr
In 2018, Roseanne Barr made some serious racist tweets about Barack Obama’s senior adviser. She said a few words that made everyone angry and hurt.
Though the ABC host apologized for her “Muslim brotherhood and planet of the apes” comment, it was already too late. Barr and her show were canceled a few days later.
2. John Mayer
John Mayer is a good artist, but not very good when it comes to women.
Throughout his career, the singer-songwriter has made some negative comments on various females. From ex-girlfriends to editors, nobody escaped Mayer’s lewd attacks.
3. Kanye West
Kanye West loves to speak his mind, way too much.
Kim Kardashian’s ex attracts trouble in a double. If he does not make negative comments on TV about other artists, he’s on social media ranting on mind control and abortion.
4. Donald Trump
This wouldn’t be a list without Donald Trump in it. The former U.S. president just trumps everyone when it comes to raining down negativity everywhere.
From immigrants and minorities to women, Trump doesn’t know how to be good with his words.
People will always have something to say about you, no matter what you do. The most important part to remember is to love and protect yourself.
You may not be able to stop this onslaught of negative comments. But you’ll be able to free your mind from the mental burden they bring into your life.
At the end of the day, no one can make you feel bad without your consent.
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When you are dealing with someone who is toxic and always likes to point out the negative and you find it stressful, consider getting support from a professional. Talking to a counselor is a great way to work through a challenging situation, and help you find some strategies to work through the person’s behaviour.
Better Help is a great resource where you can talk to a counselor from the comfort of your own home.
Taking care of your own needs isn’t selfish, and you will feel better in the long run.
Got any comments, questions or tips for dealing for dealing with a person who makes negative remarks? Share them in the comments below
16 Responses
My Aunt is the most negative person on the planet. She is always telling us why we won’t accomplish something.I am going to use number one on her. I look forward to seeing the shock on her face.
Ok no one asked for ya life story sorry ?
That’s no nice, Maggie! Be kind.
no one asked for your opinions sorry?
C’mon guys, seriously.
“If you cannot be positive then at least be quite”
These comebacks are intended for people like you.
Yeh maggie tell the negative committee that meets inside your head to sit down and shut up?
Same thing over here, but with my dad
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Good one
I’m going to try response #3 with someone that I know. I can’t wait to see the look on his face.
The best way to deal to with someone negative is by not responding to them at all because that is exactly what they want is to know they’re getting your attention. Let them sit there in their own negativity because it drives them crazy to feel like nobody is listening to or cares about what they have to say.
If for some reason you feel as though you have to respond to someone’s negativity, try killing them with kindness. Just respond with something polite, but keep it short & sweet like you would if speaking to a toddler. Keep your distance though because you don’t want to get slapped or punched by them when they get angry with you for making them look stupid.
“Wow, it’s so nice outside right now. The weather is absolutely perfect today. We should go to the beach or a park or something.” (John)
“Ok, sounds like fun to me…..let’s do it.” (Jim)
“That’s a stupid idea. It’ll just be crowded from everybody else doing the same thing so you’ll just end up getting caught in traffic and have trouble finding a parking spot, and it’ll probably rain later anyway.” (George)
“Oh really? Thanks.” (John)
(John & Jim walk away to head for the beach………without George.)
There’s a really good come back I heard a while back however I can’t remember the exact wording it goes something like…. I don’t waste my time on opinion of those who are insignificant. If someone knows the exact wording could you let me know it would have worked perfectly for my daughter the other day.
Hey Cassey, I think this is the comeback you are looking for: