Some people think that they have been put on earth to give others unsolicited advice. They are unaware that unsolicited advice can come across as arrogant and annoying. When someone is constantly giving you unsolicited advice, feels as if you are being criticized.
When taking advice from somebody, you always want to hear from someone who is more successful than you are. It is funny how people who have bratty children offer parenting advice. It makes you feel like saying, “Maybe you should work on yourself first before giving advice to me.”
Freya had an amazing opportunity to take a job based in Dubai. She had dreamed of going overseas for a long time, and when a job came up in communications, she thought that it was time. She was going to try and make it happen.
When Freya told friends that she planned to move to the Middle East, they couldn’t see the amazing opportunity. Friends told her that she would be kidnapped, and if she married, she would never see her children again. Everyone shared their reason why it would be too dangerous to move to the Middle East, and they shared other small-minded opinions about a region of the world that they knew nothing about.
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Freya did accept the job, and she moved to Dubai and had the experience of a lifetime. She worked with interesting people from all over the world and had a lifestyle she could have only dreamed of. It was a good thing she didn’t listen to the meddling advice from friends who had never been outside of the UK.
Here are a few snappy comebacks that will let the meddler know that you don’t want to hear what they have to say in the future.
What to say to someone who gives unsolicited advice
- My life, my mistakes, my choices, my lessons. Not your business.
- Thanks but I function better without unsolicited advice.
- Thank you kindly for the unsolicited advice. You obviously know so much more about my life that I do.
- Unsolicited advice is like somebody singing out of tune. Nobody wants to hear it.
- I don’t base my decisions on advice from people who don’t have to deal with the results.
- I didn’t realize you were an expert of my life and how I should live it! Continue well I take notes.
- Don’t judge a situation you’ve never been in.
- Thanks, but I’m an expert in my life.
- I must have Alzheimer’s because I don’t recall asking for your opinion.
- Maturing means everything doesn’t require your comment.
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Say that the difference between pizza and your opinion is that i asked for pizza.
There’s nothing worse than unsolictied advice.
If you have an opinion about my life raise your hand, and then put it over your mouth!
Another excellent list! Here is a good one that I found on this website – “Please unsubscribe me from your newsletters”.
“Why don’t you just have my life and live it instead of me?”
I like that one!
My personal favourite is
“I don’t take advice from people I wouldn’t trade places with.”
Some people (especially narcissists) spend their lives trying to be perfect in every way so it is hard to do a come back without a further nit picky come back. The point is to avoid furthering the conversation so one could simply say “I’ll keep your excellent opinion in mind” and then find a way to leave the situation. If they aren’t too dense, they might even wonder if you are being sarcastic.
I usually just gently smile and tell others “thank you for sharing your feedback and concerns. It means a lot to me that you care about my well-being so much and I’ll think about what you’ve said but I’m ultimately going to have to be an adult and make the decision or whatever for myself and If I need anymore advice,I know I can come to you for some k.” That works for me every time so far because most people mean well and being respectful and kind usually warrants respecting others boundaries and for those who are pushy just push back with a similar or same response. If they’re conniving then they’ll still let it be bcuz as you said”You appreciate how important you are to them and how much what you do affects them however as you said you gotta be a grown up and you’ll call on them if you need anymore of their help and/or advice.” I hope this helps someone.