I just recently left my school mid-year, and I don’t know what to do because I have a lot of friends that I would like to keep in touch with but I can’t due to personal issues. My question is that what can I say to people who are my *friends* but it feels like I’m always the first to contact them, to ask about them and they just reply only after I ask. I get frustrated at times because it starts to feel like a responsibility. So Bryn, with your clever mind I hope you can advise me on what to say.
I am sorry to hear that you are going through a personally challenging time.
I think those people are truly your friends but people are inherently lazy. People always do what is easiest for them, and they spend more time and think about people who are around them at school every day.
This recently happened to my nephew, he went to a different high school than most of the students in his elementary school. Even though he had a lot of good friends, a lot of the kids have drifted apart now that they are at other schools. When they run into my nephew, his old friends are really happy to see him and even run up and hug him.
What you want to do is keep the relationship alive and positive. Maybe check in every couple of months and say hello or post something on social media and tag them. Maybe also say something positive about them that you genuinely feel is true. You could share something you appreciate about them like how funny they are, smart, kind and an amazing listener.
A lot of people will appreciate the kind words. When you go back to your old school or are in a situation where you are close to them again, the relationship will be able to resume in a positive way.
Wishing you all good things. 🙂
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