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What to say when someone asks about the cuts on your arm

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What to say when people ask about the cuts on your arm

Hey Bryn,

My close relative died a couple of years ago, and I was sent into a depressed state and USED to cut myself. I got help, but I have self-harm scars on my arms and when people see them they question it. I need help because it pains me to go through that pain again. Explaining it is hard and I wanted to know if you had any comebacks I could use?

Anonymous, Russia


I am sorry to hear about your loss and the challenging time you went through. I am glad to hear that you are doing better.

We all have personal things that we go through that people don’t need to know about. Don’t feel like you are obligated to share your personal information with anyone. Just because they ask, doesn’t mean you have to provide a detailed answer, unless they are your good friend and you chose to do so.

Below are a few comebacks you can use to brush it off and change the subject.

Wishing you all good things.


Clever replies to explain the cuts on your arms

I was getting busy with Edward Scissorhands.
I was captured by pirates.
I got into a knife fight with a couple robbers. They're dead now.
The FBI put a microchip in my arm and I had to get it out myself.


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