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How to answer when someone asks an adoptive parent where is the real mom

Comebacks when someone asks where’s your adopted child’s real mom

When someone asks the parent of an adopted child, “Where is her real mom?” it can be really hurtful.

Adoptive mothers get asked about the real mom as if they themselves are some fake imposter. A real mom is the one who is there for their child day to day, when they are sick, tackling their homework or sharing a family meal. Real moms are there for the first day of school, the first boyfriend/girlfriend and the ups and downs of life.

Urban dictionary has a fun definition of what a mom is, “The woman who loves you unconditionally, the one who puts her kids before herself and the one who you can always count on above everyone else.

Just telling her your problems makes you feel better because mom’s always know how to make it all go away.”

Next time a nosy stranger asks about your child’s real mom, use one of our clever comebacks and don’t give it a second thought because you are the real mom.


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As you can see, I'm about 5'4", overweight, and extremely tired of questions like this!
Children don't always grow in your stomach, sometimes they grow in the heart and both ways is pure miracle.
Biology is the least of what makes someone a mother.
A mother is both a noun and a verb. Her birthmother is the noun, I the adoptive mother am the verb. Both are real.
The act of pushing out a baby does not make someone a mother. A Mother is the one who has earned that title by being there every day.

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