Do you know someone who always seems to feel sorry for him or herself? You try to help them out by giving advice that is never used or accepted? It can get a little frustrating listening to someone complain when they are not willing to change. If you get tired of constantly listening to a pity party, you may find these comebacks useful.
- Cry yourself a river, Build yourself a bridge, and get over it!
- You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep rereading the last one.
- Put on your big girl panties and get over it.
- When shit happens, turn it into fertilizer!
- If we all threw our problem in a pile and we saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.
- Oh, boo hoo, your life is so hard. Maybe some kids in Africa will send you some money.
- There better be a damn good gift bag when your pity party is over.
- Would you like some cheese with that whine?
- I feel sorry for myself having to hear how sorry you feel for yourself.
- I’d love to attend your pity party but I’m allergic to whine.
Why do people feel sorry for themselves?
Whether it’s your dwindling bank account, a relationship gone sour or losing a loved one, hardships stir up our everyday life. Well, rough patches take root inevitably. But how you deal with these challenges is entirely up to you.
Will you toughen up or feel sorry for yourself? If you choose the latter, it will cost you some serious cycle of misery.
According to psychology, people who indulge in self-pity do so for various reasons; disappointment, failure, isolation, disconnection and negative thoughts.
Don’t get us wrong, these feelings are healthy emotions. But while they’re valid, they can be overwhelming, sucking your confidence and self-image, bone-dry. And before you know it, you’re stuck in the dark chasm of self-destruction.
It’s important to know how to break free from self-pity and feel more capable of whatever life throws at you.
Let’s get back on track, shall we?
How to deal with someone who feel sorry for themselves
Every once in a while, we all feel sorry for ourselves. Challenging moments have that effect on everybody, others just choose to get back up.
And here’s what those people can teach us that we can use to help others who are not in a great place right now.
1. Listen actively
Too often we underestimate the power of listening, when in fact, it can be the most helpful thing we can do for others.
When someone is feeling sorry for themselves, they’re likely to be more withdrawn and isolated. This is why you need to show them your willingness to listen without judgment. Allow them to express their feelings openly and validate those emotions.
2. Offer support
It can be tough knowing what to do, next to a person who feels self-pity. But you can start by speaking words of encouragement and offering support.
“You’re not alone. It’s okay to not be okay. Help is available.”
Show that you care and let them know that you are with them, every step of the way.
3. Help them see the positive
There’s always a break in the clouds where the light can shine through.
That said, try to make the person see that there’s always hope, no matter how dark it gets. They just need to focus on what they can control and what they can do to get better.
By encouraging a positive outlook, your friend or loved one suffering from self-pity has something to look forward to.
4. Encourage them to seek help
People who feel self-centered sorrow may be ashamed to admit to it. So, if they keep struggling with their emotions alone, it might turn for the worse, fast. The best help is to encourage them to get professional support.
Yes, this emotion can be conquered. However, by seeking professional advice, they will be provided with the right tools and treatment to overcome their feeling of self-pity.
5. Set boundaries
Boundaries are set to have a clear line to where your limits lie. While it’s great of you to be supportive, it’s also important to keep your own mental health intact.
If the person’s self-pity is becoming a burden that overwhelms you, it’s completely okay to take a step back.
Remember, before you can help others, you need to take care of your own well-being first.
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