What to say when someone says you have no friends

When someone says that you have no friends it may feel like the end of the world. In truth, everyone single one of us has been left out at some point and time. Being excluded from a group can be very painful, and if it escalates it may be relational bullying.

When someone makes a mean comment like you have no friends that they are trying to exert power over you, or look big in front of others. If you are being  bullied you need to tell a trusted adult what is going on. it doesn’t have to be your parents but someone who can help you with the situation.

A teenager I  know went to school with a girl who was a total bag, she would hate on everyone and say mean things about people to their face causing public humiliation. She thought she was a big deal and powerful, but  behind her back all of her friends from elementary school couldn’t stand her and she had very few true friends. Sometimes the mean person spouting out lies has no idea that they aren’t so popular themselves, and the people around them are just afraid to say anything.

It may not feel like it at this moment, but there is a tribe or a group of people out there for you. You can find people online, through meetups or teen groups or wherever you are in your life. You don’t have to feel alone there are people out there going through exactly the same thing. Trust me, there is someone sitting in the same city as you feeling exactly like you are right now. 

Even though it feels like you are going to be the odd man out forever, it’s not true. Girl cliques in school can change weekly with a new person being excluded by the Queen Bee.

If you want to use a comeback on the person who said it to you, try one of the ones below.

10 Best comebacks to you have no friends

1. Having no friends is better than being fake friends with you.

2. I do, only you would not know them because they would not associate with someone like you.

3. Better for me, I don’t have to deal with idiots like you!

4. Yeah, you are fluent in lies and BS.

5. Looks like you and I have something in common after all.

6. I try to keep them quality, looks like you wouldn’t know anyone.

7. In case you didn’t know, all your friends talk behind your back. I’d rather have no friends than fake friends.

8. I prefer quality over quantity when it comes to friendships.

9. Thanks for the reminder. I’ll cherish the imaginary ones even more.

10. As if anyone cares what you think.

Why would someone say you have no friends?

Sometimes, people might tell you “you have no friends” for various reasons. It depends on who’s saying it and what’s happening at the time. 

If someone doesn’t feel good enough, they might say that someone else has no friends to take the focus off of themselves. People who feel insecure about their friendships or social relationships may put those feelings onto others.

People may say hurtful things to provoke or hurt the other person when they are fighting or arguing. Saying someone has no friends can be a way to insult or put down that person.

Before taking someone’s words to heart, it’s crucial to consider the situation and why they said what they did. Even though cruel comments can be upsetting, they often reveal more about the person who says them than about the person they are meant for. If someone says something like this to you, react with grace and confidence and put your sense of self-worth ahead of their hurtful words.

How do you deal with someone saying you have no friends

Hearing that you don’t have any friends can hurt and upset you. It’s essential to handle these kinds of comments with ease and confidence. Here are some things to think about when talking to someone who says this:

1. Stay Calm: If someone says something hurtful, try to stay calm and not respond on the spot. Take a deep breath and give yourself some time to think about how you feel.

2. Don’t take it personally: Their words are like a mirror reflecting their insecurities and issues, not a true reflection of who they are. Remember, it’s more about them than it is about you.

3. Change your perspective: Instead of dwelling on hurt or embarrassment, let’s see the situation more positively.

4. Focus on Good Relationships: Instead of getting caught up in bad things, let’s turn our attention to our beautiful relationships. Spend time with people who care about you and lift you.

5. Reach Out for Help: If the comment bothers you, it’s a good idea to talk to someone you trust, like a friend, family member, or doctor. They can be there when you need help and someone to talk to.

Ultimately, what other people think about you shouldn’t affect how you feel about yourself or how happy you are. Surround yourself with great people who lift you and have your back. Remember that your value isn’t just based on your many friends. You deserve to be a star on your own.

Talyor Swift felt excluded and didn’t have a lot of friends in high school

When Taylor Swift was in high school she often felt excluded or left out by the cool girls in her class.

Having alone time led to Taylor developing her amazing talents as a singer songwriter.

I remember when I was in school, the whole reason I started writing songs was because I was alone a lot of the time. I’d sit there in school and I’d be hearing people like, ‘Oh my god, this party that we’re going to is gonna be so awesome on Friday. Everyone’s invited except for [Taylor].  – Taylor Swift

Taylor is known for her celebrity girl squad, her crew includes singers, entrepreneurs and models. I bet the mean girls in high school wish they had been nicer to Taylor.

More comebacks you might like

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The Role of counselling and self care

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Better Help is a great resource where you can talk to a counselor from the comfort of your own home. 

Taking care of your own needs isn’t selfish, and you will feel better in the long run.

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