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How to respond when people ask if you’re gay

what to say if people call you gay

Whether you are a heterosexual or gay male, there is a pretty good chance you have been called gay or a fag in a derogatory way at some point in time. Many insecure teenage guys will use the term when they are trying to appear cool in front of their friends when really they feel like an insecure little turd or they wouldn’t feel the need to say such a thing to someone.

There is nothing wrong with being gay, and thankfully society is becoming more tolerant, in urban centres anyway.

If you’re not gay you probably want to say something to shut the person up who keeps trying to wind you up.

If you are being called gay, use one of our clever comebacks to shut the hater up.

Go ahead, vote, and tell us what you think is the best comeback to such a personal question.

Vote for the best comeback when people call you gay or a fag

Why? Are you are trying to recruit?
Only on Tuesdays.
I am straighter than the pole your mom dances on.
No, I just dress better than you!
Why YES, I am!
That is not what your mama thought last night.


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When people call you gay

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21 Responses

  1. If someone says your gay and the bully is next to another person their gender say “your calling me gay I wonder why you always hang out with him/her”

  2. Oh wait, i just remembered something . . . . .You’re gay too. You just don’t want to admit you’re dating a hobo just like yourself.


  3. hi Ive got a friend who is a guy and we go to school and this annoying person keeps calling us gay because we are boys and so she kept doing it so we had to tell a teacher (one of the higher authority) and he talked to here and she came over and said snitches get stitches so Ive had to look for comebacks (my comebacks are crap) and this site is so cool so I will say to her next time (why are you recruiting)

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