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Mean people keep calling me fat and ugly

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This mean girl in my class always calls me fat and ugly.  What can I say back because she keeps embarrassing me in front of other people at school?

Anonymous, Florida


Hey, I  receive three emails a week from girls who tell me they are being called fat and ugly.  I think you would have to be a pretty ugly person on the inside to go around saying such cruel things to people. Below are a few things you can say if someone tries to embarrass you or make you feel bad in public.


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Comebacks if people call you ugly

  1. Too bad you can’t Photoshop your ugly personality
  2. Please, my hair straightener is hotter than you.
  3. Maybe some of you girls should eat make-up, so you’re pretty on the inside.
  4. I’m sure that 90% of your “beauty” could be removed with a Kleenex.
  5. I think you’re pretty…. stupid!

See the most popular answer chosen by I should have said voters.

Comebacks if people call you fat

  1. I may be chubby, but chubby can slim down, but ugly just can’t be fixed.
  2. Fat is a temporary caloric imbalance, but stupid is a permanent genetic malfunction!
  3. Be careful, I ate the last person who commented on my weight!
  4. All the better to sit on you.

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School friendly things you can say

  1. Please cancel my subscription; I have had enough of your issues.
  2. You would be much more likable if it wasn’t for that hole in your mouth that noise comes out of.
  3. You should come with a warning label.

Don’t let some idiot’s opinion define you, just because someone says something about you doesn’t mean that it’s true.

Wishing you all good things.


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The role of counselling and self-care

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When you are dealing with being called fat and/or ugly by others and you find it stressful, consider getting support from a professional. Talking to a counselor is a great way to work through a challenging situation, and help you find some strategies to work through the person’s behaviour.

Better Help is a great resource where you can talk to a counselor from the comfort of your own home.

Taking care of your own needs isn’t selfish, and you will feel better in the long run.

Got any comments, questions or tips for dealing with people who call you fat and/or ugly? Share them in the comments below.


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6 Responses

    1. Emma u don’t need a website u need me u say “at least my mother ain’t no slut….oh wait I’m talking bout ur family” or u can say “stop talking about ur self girl” maybe even “at least I have a better life then u even if my sister was a slut she’s hotter then u that’s why she’s a slut bitch” if u don’t say badwords then say everything I said without the word bitch kk? Girls have each other’s back

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