What to say when people ask if you're crying

If you are having a really bad day it can be challenging to hold back the tears in public. Even though it isn’t a crime to cry in public, it can be embarrassing when you start blubbering away in front of people on the bus or at work.

I remember when my dog Poochie passed away, I was feeling so sad and emotional. I heard a sad song on my iPod and I could not stop crying on public transport. I was trying to wipe my eyes, it was embarrassing but I was so truly gut-wrenchingly sad.

If somebody asks if you’re crying and if you are OK, use one of our fun comebacks below to hold yourself together.

Best comebacks when someone asks if you are crying

1. No, my eyes are just sweating.

2. I’m not crying, I’m having an allergic reaction to feelings.

3. I’m not crying because I am sad. I am crying because I want to punch you in the face and the law says I can’t.

4. I won’t cry for you, my mascara is too expensive.


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When you are dealing with someone who catches you crying and you find it stressful, consider getting support from a professional. Talking to a counselor is a great way to work through a challenging situation, and help you find some strategies to work through the person’s behaviour.

Better Help is a great resource where you can talk to a counselor from the comfort of your own home. 

Taking care of your own needs isn’t selfish, and you will feel better in the long run.

Got any comments, questions or tips for dealing with what to say when someone catches you crying? Share them in the comments below.

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  1. OMG ? these are the best comebacks ever thank you ? people ????I cry ? all the time these really helped with my break up with Lachlan he was the best boyfriend ever. I loved him so much ????????????He broke my to a ugly girl ? her name is Selma. Now I’m actually crying ? right now while writing this . I love you people ??Lachlan if you are here I’m sorry but you broke my heart ???????in to.

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