What should you say when someone has done you wrong but asks, “Will you forgive me?” Who knows if you are ready to forgive or not, but forgiveness is really about helping yourself not the other person.
If you forgive someone, it doesn’t give the person a free pass or make what they did OK. If the person did something incredibly mean, you will have to decide if you want the person in your life anymore. When you forgive another it means that you have processed what happened, are at peace and feel ready to let go of the situation.
When someone has done you wrong once, shame on them for their crappy behaviour. If someone has done something horrible to you repeatedly, shame on you for letting it happen again and again. What you allow will continue. What you allow to continue will escalate.
When someone in your life that is continually rude to you, takes you for granted or doesn’t treat you well, you have to change how you respond to them. Today might be the day to finally make a change in the dynamic of the relationship.
If you really want to make some positive changes in your life, the book the Dance of Anger can help you change your pattern of interaction. Many people have found the book to be life-changing, including me.
Here are a few clever comebacks you can use to let the person who wronged you know if you have forgiven them or not.
Best comebacks for someone asks to be forgiven
1. Forgive and forget. I’m not Jesus, nor do I have Alzheimer’s
2. Forgive you sure. Forget about it, not a chance in hell.
3. Forgiving you means I will no longer dwell on what a giant asshole you are. It doesn’t mean you are no longer a giant asshole.
4. I’m a good enough person to forgive you but I’m not stupid enough to trust you again.