When one of your parents says, “Don’t you talk back to me!” They are obviously pretty annoyed with you.
You may feel like you are not talking back and they are just not listening to you. After all, parents aren’t perfect, many are trying their best to give you the best life possible.
There was a study done that found that teens who talk back to their parents were more likely to stand up to others and say no to drugs. I guess you could say that you are practicing standing up for yourself for drug prevention.
Next time you are accused of taking back or backchat, use one of our clever comebacks.
9 best comebacks when your parents tell you not to talk back
1) I wasn’t aware that answering my mom’s question was considered talking back.
2) You call it talking back. I call it explaining.
3) Getting in an argument with you is like getting arrested. Everything I say, can and will be used against me.
4) There are three sides of an argument — your side, my side and the right side.
5) I get that you may have your own opinion on the situation, but I would appreciate the opportunity to share my side of the story as well.
6) I feel like I’m not being heard by you. Can I tell you what really happened.
7) Can I at least explain what happened to you so you know what really went on?
8) Can you please let me finish before responding?
9) I’m feeling frustrated that I’m not being given a chance to explain my side.
Why do people say “don’t talk back to me?”
When people say “don’t talk back to me” they may be asserting control and letting you know that they are in charge of a situation. It is a way of shutting you down from speaking out or expressing an opposing opinion.
In some situations, when someone tells you not to talk back they may also be telling you that you need to use respectful behaviour, and stop using rude language. They want you to change your attitude and have a little respect.
The tone when there phrase is used can indicate a different meaning.
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How to deal with someone saying “don’t talk back to me!”
If someone says “don’t talk back to me” to you, it can be a difficult situation to handle, and some will find the phrase upsetting. Here are some tips on how to deal with it:
Try to stay calm: Even if you find it frustrating when someone won’t let you talk, try to keep control of your emotions and stay calm.
Listen up: Try to understand the other person’s point of view and what they are saying to you. If you disagree, can you find any common ground?
Try to respond respectfully: you may feel like expoloding with anger but it isn’t going to help the situation. Keep a respectful tone and the respond calmly to avoid escalating the situation.
Try to remember that every situation is different, and it’s important to use your judgment when dealing with an upset person. Sometimes it can help to take a break from talking about an issue when people are upset or have heightened emotions and come back and talk about it later.
The Role of counselling and self care
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When you are dealing with a person who tells you not to talk back and you find it stressful, consider getting support from a professional. Talking to a counselor is a great way to work through a challenging situation, and help you find some strategies to work through the person’s behaviour.
Better Help is a great resource where you can talk to a counselor from the comfort of your own home.
Taking care of your own needs isn’t selfish, and you will feel better in the long run.