How to respond when someone says they are too busy to see you

There are times in life when everyone experiences hectic periods when they are too busy to have much of a social life. Sometimes work, family or school has to be the top priority, but if someone is constantly too busy to see you, they may be making excuses not to spend time with you. Never make someone a priority when they only make you an option.

If you are in a relationship and someone can’t find the time to hang out with you, then they are just not that into you. When you are interested in someone romantically, you always make time to see the person.

Let us know what you think the best comeback is when someone says they’re too busy to see you.

15 Best comebacks when someone says I’m too busy to see you

1. You will always have time for the things you put first.

2. Let me know when you are available so I can make sure I am busy.

3. No calls I understand. No texts I understand. When you see me with someone else I hope you can understand.

4. Yeah personally, I’m too busy to tell people how busy I am.

5. Are you going to be busy 24 / 7 for the next 5 years?

6. No matter how busy someone is, if they really care, they will always find time for you.

7. Truthfully, are you really so busy or are just avoiding hurting my feelings?

8. You know where you find me when you have time to chat and catch up.

9. OK, we always make time for what’s important in our life.

10. I get that you have a busy life. Honestly, it was disappointing that you could’t fit in a little time for something that is so important to me.

11. OK, I was just checking in. I hope that life is treating you well.

12. Spill the tea and tell me what or who’s been keep your so busy?

13. Really, what’s her name?

14. The reality is no one is busier than someone who isn’t actually interested in you.

15. I get it. Your’e too busy to make time for me.


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Why do people say they are too busy?

People often say they are too busy because they have a lot of work, personal tasks, and responsibilities to attend to. We live in a fast-paced world, people are expected to juggle multiple commitments family, their social life, work, and personal hobbies.

With so much to do, it’s not unusual for folks to feel stressed out and overwhelmed by what they must do. What makes it even worse is work can reach you 24 hours a day now, and in many jobs, you are expected to respond as soon as possible.

Saying they are too busy is a way to let me know that they can’t take on any more social commitments and tasks at this time.

When someone says they are too busy to see you it can really hurt and sting, but it is not a reflection of your worst.

How to deal with someone who says they are too busy to see you

First and foremost, there is no such thing as being “too busy.” It’s just a matter of priorities.

Nonetheless, if someone can’t see you because their schedule is super packed, you need to learn to respect it— ahem, priorities.

Here are some tips to help you get over the fact that you just got sidelined for something way more important…at least for now.

1. Be understanding

Perhaps, the person has a lot of things going on in their life. They can’t make time to see you because they seriously don’t have the time, at the moment.

Learn to recognize that and show a bit of understanding, will you?

2. Offer to reschedule

If they can’t make time in their busy schedule at this slot, maybe you can reschedule? There’s got to be a better time arrangement that works for you both.

By working around their timeframe, you’re showing that you’re willing to work things out just to spend time with them.

3. Don’t take it personally

Ever heard of the saying, “It’s not you, it’s their busy schedule?

Whenever you feel down that someone can’t find time to see you, just remember that their action is not a reflection of their feelings. Don’t take it too personally and let it affect your confidence.  

4. Find other ways to connect

So, what if you can’t meet in person? We’re pretty sure there are several other ways to connect. 

Thanks to technology, you can talk over the phone, send messages and still see each other over a video chat. When there’s a will, there’s a way, right?

The fact of the matter is that people have their set of priorities where they spend most of their time. If a person can’t see you now because they’re more driven to do other things, be understanding and respectful about it.

As we mentioned, there are other ways to connect. You can still maintain that strong bond you have with someone, despite their very, very busy schedule — seriously, we just told you.

Famous people who are known to be too busy for their fans

Celebrities are known to live such busy lives. They’re often accused of it by their fans, despite not knowing the full context of these commitments.

But what we do know is that stars have tons of professional engagements such as touring, recording, filming and attending social functions here and there. Thus, making it hard for them to spend time with their fans.

Don’t forget; these famous people are human beings too. They also have their set of priorities like their health and family time. So, if they can’t say yes to every fan request, show some love and understanding.

As avid supporters who claim to love these public figures, shouldn’t you respect their boundaries? Appreciate the time that you have with them, no matter how short it is, because every interaction is a rare opportunity.

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When you are dealing with someone too busy to see you and you find it stressful, consider getting support from a professional. Talking to a counselor is a great way to work through a challenging situation, and help you find some strategies to work through the person’s behaviour.

Better Help is a great resource where you can talk to a counselor from the comfort of your own home. 

Taking care of your own needs isn’t selfish, and you will feel better in the long run.

Got any comments, questions or tips for dealing with someone who says they are too busy to see you? Share them in the comments below.

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  1. “We all have the same 24 hours in a day! Prioritize!” (It’s what you choose to do during that time that makes a difference)

    “When you are reduced to an option, you’ll never become a priority.”

  2. Oh I’m sorry I bothered you I thought you said if I ever needed anything to come to you? My bad won’t happen again.

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