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How to answer when people call you bossy

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If you are a woman and a leader, at some point in time, someone will have called you bossy. Bossy is almost a negative stereotype for a strong and successful woman. The funny thing is, if a man did the exact same thing, there wouldn’t be any criticism.

If you are confident and a direct communicator some people may perceive that you are bossy, you do not have to accept their framing of the situation. Some people want to lead and others want to follow.

If you want to make a clever retort the next time someone calls you bossy, use one of our clever comebacks.

Vote for the best comeback for being called bossy

I'm not bossy, I just know what you should be doing.
Do it my way or I will push you off my broom.
I'm not bossy. I simply make suggestions without options.
I'm not bossy. I have leadership skills.

Smart comebacks when people call you bossy

Growing up Shery Sanberg was called bossy

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When a little boy asserts himself, he’s called a “leader.” Yet when a little girl does the same, she risks being branded “bossy.” Words like bossy send a message: don’t raise your hand or speak up. By middle school, girls are less interested in leading than boys—a trend that continues into adulthood. Together we can encourage girls to lead – Sheryl Sandberg

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Funny replies when people call you BOSSY

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9 Responses

  1. Well… this problem bothers me sooo much and I just tell them : “well, I’m more of a leader, not a follower”. Hope that helps 😉

  2. Be careful with #1 because someone can give 2 good counter comebacks: “Since you know what I should be doing, you should know when you need to shut up!” and “I didn’t realize you were an expert in my life and how I should live it! Continue while I take notes.”

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